(Closed) Waiting to get married {POLL}

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: If you wanted to wait to get married but your FI didn't would you meet halfway or just wait?
    I'm not ready! We're waiting! : (5 votes)
    16 %
    Let's meet halfway! : (15 votes)
    47 %
    Something isn't right... : (12 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    sorry…which year did you mean to put?? your post says 2010

    Post # 5
    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    well, Mr. Meowerson wants to get married sooner, but I want to lose a substantial amount of weight first, as I am quite overweight atm.  so i have my own unresolved issues with myself!

    Post # 6
    1991 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Is the weight the only issue? How much weight do you want to lose?

    Post # 7
    7405 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I totally get where your coming from. There were definitely several issues that I need to get in line before I started to get over my commitment issues (which had nothing to do with him). I say compromise. I would never have moved forward with a rushed wedding date only because I know I would ultimately feel some kind of resentment. I adore my FH but somethings love can’t fix and I’m happy that I had the presence of mind to stand strong in my conviction but still acknowledge his needs as well.

    Post # 8
    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think that [personally] issues should mostly be resolved before making a commitment if they are something that can be resolved/ hinge on being resolved prior to a commitment — to be of a healthier mindset  would be overall beneficial to the union [imo].

    However, that being said, I think it [conflict resolution, goals, issues etc] should be discussed at length with ones partner and a healthy compromise met that pleases both sides. Whether that be a counselling, a healthier mindset, certain goals being met [i.e.: school etc],  really depends on the individual situation.

    My partner & I agreed that we wouldn’t get married until at least one of us was finished or degree, started a career & that we had purchased a home [rather than throw our rent out the window], so we had certain goals that we felt needed to be met before we seriously started planning for a wedding– marriage we knew was an eventual given, the wedding is just the celebration 🙂


    Post # 9
    1851 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    If the situation was reversed I would say the same thing. Relationships are about compromise. Since y’all both agree that y’all are for sure getting married, I think it makes the most sense to compromise and meet halfway on the date.

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