Post # 1
Hi Bees, my fiance and I are getting married next June, but have been thinking about waiting until September-October for our honeymoon. As of right now, we are planning on going to Disneyworld (we both love Disney parks, a nice long, relaxing trip has been a lifelong dream of mine, and we can’t afford to go overseas right now), but he is very intolerant of hot weather. I know he would not enjoy it in June, and frankly I wouldn’t have as much fun then, either, because it would be swarmed with kids and that is the rainy season in Florida. I used to live there, so I am relatively familiar with the weather. We also have a lot of family coming in from out of town and my dad wants to host a post-wedding family reunion where he lives (about 2 hours away from where our wedding is); it would be really great to get to spend that time with our OOT family that I haven’t seen in years.
Do you guys think a honeymoon will be less special if we wait? I suppose we could take a mini-moon right after the wedding, but that would likely come out of the budget for our “big” honeymoon, so part of me would rather just take the bigger trip later. Does anyone have any insight into this?
Post # 2
MadameX: I wouldn’t think waiting for a honeymoon later on would be less special because its all about how you set the tone/make the trip feel special itself. We are in the same boat of waiting due to our jobs and not being able to get the time off work right away. Gives us some time to not feel so rushed, figure out what we wanna do/where to go and to be able to save up for it. It won’t feel any less special that we have to wait because it will be our fist big trip as husband and wife.
Post # 3
I don’t think anyone can answer that for you. There are plenty of bees who go on their honeymoon months after the wedding. I’ve known people who got married and didnt go anywhere for a few months. I never heard them say it didn’t feel like a honeymoon.
Personally, it wouldn’t feel like a honeymoon FOR ME but just a vacation with my husband. It’s up to you to do what you want to do.
Post # 4
The honeymoon is what you make of it. I know tons of people who waited to go on theirs and they had a wonderful time (including one couple who went on their honeymoon 3 years after getting married). FI and I are also delaying our honeymoon by a few months and we have no regrets about it. We’re both workaholics and we knew that we would be more relaxed if we took a honeymoon around the holidays instead of taking a ton of time off for a wedding+honeymoon in the fall, which is the busiest time of year for both of our jobs. We also have a lot of out of state guests and wanted to have more time to spend with them right after the wedding.
Post # 5
I agree with those who have said this is a personal choice.
FI and I are getting married in a few weeks and are going on our honeymoon in January 2015. Initially, I was also a bit upset about this because I had always envisioned jetting off after the wedding to relax on a honeymoon as (brand)newlyweds.
However, now that the wedding planning (which i have enjoyed immensely) is drawing to a close I am happy the honeymoon isnt for a few months because it gives us something else to look forward to.
Post # 6
MadameX: Plus I should add that we fel the same way about the heat. We are in Canada so its beautiful here this time of year, it will feel much nicer to get away to the warmer climates in the winter months!
Post # 7
MadameX: I don’t think it’ll be less special! We’ll be getting married in May and honeymooning in the fall too. Bring your “just married” panties, have wild hotel sex, get drunk (if that’s your thing), enjoy Disney like you’re still a kid (I went at 18 and I was THRILLED! haha!), and make it all about the two of you 🙂
Splurge on a nice dinner and some wine…do something a little extra and “splurgy” to make it feel more like your honeymoon than a normal vacation. 🙂
Post # 8
I can’t speak to this as I’m not married yet but my mother stillllll talks about how she wishes they went on a trip for their honeymoon (they did stay at a local lake cabin a few nights for a mini moon). She said they went on a tropical trip a few months later and told themselves it was a honeymoon but she always says you cannot recreate the energy, excitement and the special feeling of just having been married.
Do whatever you like of course, but I would definitely say yes- take a mini moon while you’re still in the whirlwind glow of your new marriage.
Post # 9
MadameX: it will not be less special, if anything it will give you something else to look forward to after the wedding is over, its kinda like the wedding is not over yet LOL
Post # 10
I agree with MrsBuesleBee, try and plan something for right after the wedding, even if it’s just a couple nights away in a hotel or a cabin for the weekend, something to celebrate while you’re both still on cloud nine from the wedding! We’re going on Honeymoon to Cuba the morning after the wedding wich will be pretty exhausting as we’re having to fly home to the UK first from our DW in Spain but will be worth it to enjoy that exciting newlywed feeling while it’s there
Post # 11
MadameX: My DH and I waited about 3 months before we went on our honeymoon. One of the main reasons for the time gap was that we were looking to book our flights using airline points so that we could keep the cost of the honeymoon down. By booking a few months out from the wedding date we went to our honeymoon location during the off season and saved over two thousand dollars.
Looking back I am really happy that we waited for the honeymoon. After the wedding there is so much to do. I needed time to get my house in order from the bridal shower gifts (didn’t use anything until after the wedding). I also wanted to get out the thank you cards ASAP. I also wanted to work on the wedding album.
I definitely had the post wedding blues and having the honeymoon a few months out gave me something to look foward to…….
Post # 12
We are not planning to go on a honeymoon until Jan/Feb of 2015 – so up to 4 months after our wedding. With the date of our wedding, FI goes hunting most of November so it made more sense to just wait. Plus, it’s SOOOOOOO cold in January/February here that going someplace warm will be a treat!!!
I have friends who waiteda a year and a half before they went on a honeymoon, and then they went with another couple who waited almost a year to go on theirs. I also know others who have waited until colder weather to go, when they’ve gotten married when during the summer when it’s hot.
Post # 13
Thanks for all of the responses! I really appreciate the different points you guys have given me to think about.
Post # 14
We have waited to go on our honeymoon (wedding was October 2013, going on our honeymoon in August!) and I don’t think it will be any less special. It all depends on how you view it I guess. I’m looking forward to just hanging out with my hubby for a week in a romantic place! So exciting 🙂
Post # 15
We got married Sept 1 and did a short mini-moon to Florida where we stayed at my grandmother’s condo (she wasnt’ there!) for a few days. Then we did our big honeymoon to Kenya in November. It was perfect!!! Serviously.
The mini-moon was awesome because you’re so amped up after the wedding, you need to come down and process and relax and enjoy each other. We didn’t do much in the way of activities and it was perfect. Wake up. Watch TV. Breakfast. Sit by pool. Snack. Watch a movie. Walk on beach. Eat dinner. Read. Sex. TV. Sleep. Repeat. You get the picture. It was just enough to bask in the glow of the wedding and recover from its insanity. Honestly, I don’t think I could have enjoyed a vacation that involved anything more than what we did, at that point.
Then we got time to rest and pack and get excited for our honeymoon! Instead of basking in the afterglow of wedding, it’s more like basking in the glow of a new marriage that you’ve just gotten a small taste of. It was in no way less special because we waited a couple months. I think I was able to enjoy it more and be more engaging with my husband (rather than being a slug on the mini-moon because I was so mentally and physically exhausted). And we got the trip we wanted, which would not have been possible right after the wedding.
Best. Idea. Ever.
So, I would recommend at least 1 night (preferably 2-3) for a mini-moon locally at a cabin or B&B or something like that. Then go on your honeymoon when you’ll enjoy it more, in the fall.