(Closed) Waiting to have a baby until 29

posted 9 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How old were you when you had your first baby?
    20-24 : (8 votes)
    7 %
    25-29 : (46 votes)
    41 %
    30-34 : (54 votes)
    48 %
    >35 : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Less than 20 : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    2739 posts
    Sugar bee

    Wow, don’t I feel old 🙁 I’m 32, will be married just before 33. If we start TTC then, I probably woud have a kid nearer 34 etc. Oh well, that’s life. My mum had me at 22. Most of my friends are starting to have kids now in their 30’s. I live in NYC if that helps. Age skews higher here for marriage and kids.

    Post # 33
    Member
    714 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It is way common for women to have babies in their 30s.  I will be 34 (2 months shy of 35) when our first is born in September.  Most of my close friends and family were in their 30s when they stated having babies.  I have to say, I did start getting a little worried about not being able to get pregnant before we stated.  Then I reminded my self of a couple things:

    1. Some women/couples have a difficult time getting pregnant in their 20s, so age doesn’t really matter that much.
    2. I already forgot my second point…sorry, I’ve got baby brain going on!

    The truth is that you will never know until you try!  It only took us about 5 months after I went off the pill! 

    Post # 34
    Member
    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    probably around 30! i am turning 27 tomorrow. i am still WAY too immature for that kind of responsibility.

    Post # 35
    Member
    4886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We’re not interested in having kids, but I have to say that 30 is still plenty young!!!  I have a friend who had her first at 38, and while she had a few issues, she and her baby are perfectly healthy and awesome.  Don’t ever put a cap on your fertility age unless a doctor has told you, for certain, that you will have an issue if you don’t conceive by X years.  Even then I’d bet there’s still room for error though.  Do what’s right for you and FI!

    Post # 37
    Member
    857 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My aunt had both her kids after she was thirty, and they are both normal, very bright chillins. Pretty talented and athletic too! 🙂 Don’t let the internet scare you… If you let it, you’re going to be pulling out your hair once you actually get to that point that you are pregnant!

    Post # 38
    Member
    7897 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I had my first daughter when I was 26.  I will be 34 when this baby is born.  I had no trouble conceiving, but I’m not gonna lie- it is harder this time around!  I do feel older and more worn out this pregnancy.  Not unbearable or anything- just dont have the spunk I did when I was younger.

    Post # 39
    Member
    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @bestbuddies:  Absolutely hands down go for your Masters first. I have two  kids and my schooling got interrupted and have not made it back yet. It’s okay to wait. You will feel more confident, mature, done what you wanted to do and then have a family. 

    Post # 40
    Member
    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We also put our professions first when figuring out our timeline for marrying/having kids and also just wanted some time to be married before TTC.  We started TTC recently and I’m 30 (31 in July) – if all goes well, I’ll have my first at 31.  If it doesn’t go well and takes longer or we have issues…honestly, I wouldn’t change anything.  I loved having our 1.5 year of marriage to enjoy marriage and each other.

    Post # 41
    Member
    222 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t have kids yet, but I would like to start trying around 29-30.  I don’t think that’s too old at all.  The gerneral thought is that women closer to 35 and over start having more complications to have a healthy baby.  I don’t think you would have less of a chance concieving at 29 (of coarse I don’t know your medical history, so I am just generalizing this.

    Now if you go after your masters and are able to plan when you will graduate, what if you TTC six to seven months before you graduate?  That could give you some extra time to finish school and ease your fertility fears at the same time.  Like I said, I’ve never been pregnant, so I’m no expert, and I don’t know what it would be like to pusue a masters and study while pregnant, but it was just a thought.

     

    Post # 43
    Member
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2007

    I picked 25-29, but I’m just on the cusp- I’ll turn 30 within 6 months of having my first.

    Post # 45
    Member
    7776 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Im 23 now and we are planning to wait at LEAST 3 more years, probably closer to 5. So, we’re aiming at late 20s/early 30s.

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