(Closed) Waiting to see each other until walking down the aisle, or doing a first look?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
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  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee

    I personally want my Fiance to see me for the first time as I walk down the aisle. However, many brides like to do the first look nowadays because it allows you the opportunity to get a lot of the photography out of the way and head straight to your reception after the ceremony.

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    We will be waiting till I walk down the aisle! I’m already happy with our decision, I just know there will be that much more emotion as I walk and everything becomes real! ๐Ÿ™‚ Yes we have less time for photos but that’s something I can live with!

    Post # 4
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016 - Bell Tower on 34th

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    futuremrss17 :  Hey there!  I just recently got married on 6/11/16 and my husband and I did a first look.  While we were able to get a lot of photos, I do feel like I would have enjoyed it more following tradition and seeing him the first time as I’m coming down the aisle.  The first look definitely helped with timing and a smooth transition to cocktail hour and we were able to actually shorten our cocktail hour to 35 mins so that we could have a longer reception.

    Personally, if you have a venue where you have the ability to take photos in between the ceremony and reception without running into all your wedding guests (our venue was very small so we did not have room), I would definitely recommend not doing a first look. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Good luck with your wedding! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

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    futuremrss17 :  we did a first look and I am 100% happy with that decision. Not only did it give us so much more time at our cocktail hour/reception, but it completely eased any jitters that we had pre-ceremony.

    Plus, my thinking was this: shouldn’t he get to see me before everyone? Like, idk, to me it would be like telling your entire family you’re pregnant at the same time you told your DH. He deserves first look. 

    We did our first look, as well as read some personal vows to each other, prior to the ceremony. Our photographer captured all of it, and it let us have a really sentimental moment. Then we did all the formal bridal party and family shots, and then went back to our waiting areas to freshen any little details as guests began to arrive. When I walked down the aisle at the ceremony, he was just as excited to see me, but I was calm and just so relaxed. Plus, when we did our vows at the altar we kept it simple, since we’d already exchanged vow books with our more personal vows earlier. We liked that we had that moment of just us.

    Plus it was just such a relief to finish with the ceremony and then be able to just enjoy the party. So many weddings I have been to you don’t see the bride and groom for an hour or more after the ceremony, which not only means you don’t get to celebrate with the people you came for, but other things like food/dancing are delayed until they get there too.

     

    TL;DR: DO IT ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 6
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    Worker bee

    We’ll be doing a first look because we have big families and want to have time to get pictures done! Also we want some of that delicious cocktail hour food smile

    Post # 7
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: October 2016

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    futuremrss17 :  In my experience, first-looks are kind of anti-climactic. It seems really rare to get that priceless shocked/emotional expression on your groom’s face (that expression seems abundant only on Pinterest!). Most guys just smile. Whereas, it’s way more emotional for them to see their bride for the first time coming downt he aisle.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

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    mrsginger :  I love that analogy! 

     

    We’ll be doing a first look, its not for the photos but for spending more time together on our wedding day. Also, every wedding I’ve been to with a first look I still saw a ton of feeling when the bride walked down the aisle. 

    The two experiences feel very different. 

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    We aren’t doing a first look. We both want to see each other for the first time when I’m walking down the aisle. We’ll be spending the morning with each other up until the point we split to get ready, so I think we’ll have enough time together to shake any jitters.

    While pictures are important, it’s more important to us to have that moment than have a few extra pictures or a few extra hors d’oeuvres. But I think for some the first look is a great idea, especially if you want a lot of pictures but still want extra time at your cocktail hour to mingle.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    We’re doing a first look. I want it to be party time as soon as the ceremony ends, so leaving for a hour or more to take photos was not happening.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

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    asobos :  thank you! and I agree with you, your groom will not have a finite amount of emotion that he can show that day, therefore depleting some of it if you see each other first, lol. Honestly, my DH was so sweet and excited and overjoyed seeing me before the ceremony, and was emotional at the walk down the aisle because it was “it.” Like, it was really happening.

     

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    We’re doing a first look. I want us to be able to enjoy our cocktail hour and reception with our guests rather than being stressed about getting photos.  After our first look we’ll do family and bridal party photos.  

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    We’re doing a first look because we want it to be more intimate when we see each other for the first time. It’ll be just us and perhaps our dog and I can’t wait. Walking down the aisle will still be special in a different way. 

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    DH really wanted to stick with tradition and see me when I walked down the aisle. I made him walk down the aisle first (so neither of us were being given away) so at the back of church he knew I was there but just didn’t turn around. So I didn’t really see him either. The photographers didn’t get his reaction but they did get the reaction as we both looked at each other for the first time at the altar and I love that photo. I don’t regret doing it that way. We obviously spent some time after the ceremony doing photos but it was really nice because we had a moment alone after the wedding to be “we got married” and the photographers stayed a discrete distance away and just captured it all. I think for us the first look would have been nervous and not as relaxed as the photos after. We initially considered a first look thinking it would calm us down before the ceremony but we settled on both walking down the aisle and closing our eyes to give each other a hug if needed at the back of church before it stared. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong, or that you’ll regret either decision, we all make decisions that are right for us and we just have to remember why we made those decisions.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    We waited until I walked down the aisle and I’m so happy with the decision.  His reaction was so magical…and I’m not sure it if would have been the same if he had seen me before.  It was captured on the video I shared here before and it’s my favorite part.  

    It was such a surreal moment…I didn’t even notice anyone but him so it was “sorta” private.  LOL

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