Post # 1
hello! Our little girl is almost 10 months old, and we are getting married October 2019, we were going to wait until our honeymoon in June 2020 but I sort of want another like now… but there isn’t enough time to TTC, have a baby and slim down again for the wedding! How do I deal with the baby fever!?
Anyone have any any advice or been in this situation?
Post # 2
Beth7210 : Did you get pregnant easily with your first? If you started trying now, you could have a 6 month old at your wedding. But I agree that there will be zero time to slim down and going from 1-2 and planning a wedding would make me want to cry every day. Tough call! Waiting til 2020 would also be hard!
I had to play the waiting game from 3-12 months with my daughter. I knew I wanted another one but wanted her at least to be a year before getting pregnant. It helps to just be present with your babe, do little photo shoots, do activities, plan for future. I was so thankful with how analbi was with planning food introduction and activities around our city so that when #2 cane I didn’t have to do as much research. Mine are 21 months apart. The first 6 months = torture. Now…best thing we ever did 🙂
Post # 3
Beth7210 : I heard that it’s quite a common for women to get baby fever when their kid is 6-12 months old. The reasons for this are that baby reached it’s peak cuteness, not as fragile anymore, sleeps better, still not mobile and you have recovered from birth and feeling better. What to do? Wait it out for a few months! The fever usually passes once the little monster becomes mobile and you will no longer have a second to yourself 😂
Post # 4
Beth7210 : I also agree it’s sort of common to have baby fever around 6-12 months because your baby isn’t tiny anymore but that age is pretty easy. I mean, I didn’t have it bad. I know it’s much better on my body and for the next baby to wait longer between births so I just decided that I was going to enjoy that time not being pregnant. I got it more once my friend got pregnant again when her first was 15mo (our first babies were the same age) but I still wanted to wait until after a vacation to try so our second kids are about 8 months apart (my first was 23mo when I got pregnant with my second). Also, I looked at it as having more time to spend with just my oldest without my attention divided. Two kids is a LOT more work. A lot. It’s not “easier” because you’ve been through it before. Enjoy spending time with your first baby and without as much going on and things to do.
I mean, if you want them close together (something I will never understand except for age related reasons lol) then if you got pregnant tomorrow you might be able to give birth and slim down and have a baby old enough to leave. But you’ll be exhausted as shit probably. But I also wouldn’t go on a honeymoon (long trip) with a baby younger than ~11mo at home so you might have to factor that in.
Post # 5
Thank you for the replies, I really appreciate it. I know it’s not the right time, and agreed that I haven’t even experienced the toddler years yet, so my well behaved baby might yet turn into a monster! I don’t think it helps that I was so relaxed in pregnancy and for a while afterwards, some hormone in pregnancy completely took away my anxiety and my social awkwardness! But now I’m stopping breastfeeding it’s all coming back to me!