Post # 31
Thank you for starting this thread! I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.
Age? 33, Darling Husband is 31
Number of kids? None
Where are you at right now and do you have plans to start trying? We’ve been married 3.5 years, and I’m currently finishing up my PhD (expecting a May graduation). Darling Husband has a good job and can easily find another if we move. I have a full-time teaching job at the moment, but my contract ends next summer. I’m still on BC and we aren’t currently living in the same city. We’re in the US and I’d like to move home to my Canadian health care eventually. I may stop taking BC when I submit my dissertation in a few months, but use non-hormonal methods for a while so that I can track my natural cycle, then switch to NTPT or possibly even TTC in the summer or fall next year.
What is keeping you waiting? My career. Since I don’t have a permanent position, I might be starting from scratch in the fall, and having a child in the US isn’t really feasible without accumulating a bunch of PTO first. But I can’t wait forever, and since Darling Husband has a good career, it might make sense to put my career on hold for a while. I just know it would be very difficult, if not impossible, to get back on track afterwards. On the other hand, I’m currently teaching in a different field than my degree is in, and I’ve found that I actually prefer work in this other field, so I might need to go back to school at some point anyway (possibly as soon as next fall for a Master’s, if the job search doesn’t pan out). If that’s the case, a gap might not matter as much.
What is on your to do list before a baby? Finish my dissertation. Get a new job and accumulate at least a year’s experience there before giving birth (so, if I do manage to get a job that I want to keep, it would be fall rather than summer 2019 for TTC). Move into the same place as Darling Husband. Ideally move back to Canada, but that might not be possible while keeping my career as well. I think I’ll soon have to decide on what trade-off I’m going to make.
How are you keeping the baby fever at bay? Between working full-time and finishing my dissertation, I know it would make zero sense to have a baby right now; I’m not even living in the same city as Darling Husband. So the baby fever isn’t at a crisis point right now, but it definitely increased a lot with my 33rd birthday this summer. The clock is ticking.
Post # 32
Age? 27, Darling Husband is 30
Number of kids? 0
Where are you at right now and do you have plans to start trying? We’ve been married for just over a year and we’re going to start trying this summer.
What is keeping you waiting? I just changed jobs, so I want to be there for a year before trying. We just bought a house, so we want to do some renovations (painting, upgrading furniture, fixing our lawn, fixing insulation, etc).
What is on your to do list before a baby? Some house renovations and a little bit of traveling. We’re thinking New Orleans in the spring or Austria in the summer. I also want to pay down some of my student loans and start my retirment account. I also have to get a new car since my car now is 20 years old and definitely not a safe car for a child. Also, we’re planning on getting a dog in the spring.
How are you keeping the baby fever at bay? Looking at my student loan balances LOL. But in reality, I’m focusing on work and trying to save money. I have a physical in a few weeks so Ill ask my doctor if there’s anything I should be doing health-wise. Starting in the spring I’ll be buying some books and increasing my fitness routine aka losing about 10 pounds.
Post # 33
Age? 23 & 26
Number of kids?
Where are you at right now and do you have plans to start trying?
I am in my first year of teaching and my husband owns his own business. We recently got married and I am working on my Masters. We were thinking of starting to TTC this month but we getting a brand new job we felt it would be best to wait until July 2019 to start.
What is keeping you waiting?
My new job. I was nervous that because I am a first year teacher, telling my district I was pregnant 4 months into my job would not be a great idea.
What is on your to do list before a baby?
Create a good savings, do renovations on our current home and start shopping to purchase a second home.
How are you keeping the baby fever at bay?
Talking about what we need to accomplish 8-9 months time!
Post # 34
BookishBee : The pull between career/baby is a tough one. Congrats on your PhD! I’m Canadian too (married to a dual citizen, wanting to start a family soon is definitely keeping us in this country).
futurebrideesq : It sounds like you’re getting there. I also need to make a trip to the doc.
kmh23 : Congrats on the job! That’s awesome.
Post # 35
Age? 23, fiancé is 24
Number of kids? We just have one daughter at the moment
Where are you at right now and do you have plans to start trying? We are moving house and planning our wedding!
What is keeping you waiting? I don’t want to be pregnant on our wedding day or honeymoon
What is on your to do list before a baby? Finish moving and get married!
How are you keeping the baby fever at bay? Not very well 😂 sometimes I want to just say screw it and try but then I don’t want to not fit in my wedding dress! To be fair I’m having some cycle issues at the moment which means we couldn’t try if we wanted to, so I suppose that helps!
Post # 36
Beth7210 : Congrats on the wedding!
Post # 37
Number of kids? 0
Where are you at right now and do you have plans to start trying? Married in June, waiting until least until a year of marriage, possibly two
What is keeping you waiting? Want to take a one-year wedding anniversary trip where I can enjoy myself, drink, etc. We also like to go out a lot, drink, do things we couldn’t do if I am pregnant/with a newborn
What is on your to do list before a baby? Travelling, buying a house, possibly moving to another state
How are you keeping the baby fever at bay? I am a maternity nurse, so I get my baby fix cuddling babies in the nursery at work. I also just have so many things I want to enjoy with my husband before I get pregnant and that helps me whenever I long for (as my husband and I say) “baby feets”
Post # 38
Age? 28, Hubby is 29
Number of kids? 0
Where are you at right now and do you have plans to start trying? We got married in June, went to SE Asia for our honeymoon right after. I had my IUD out the end of August to start tracking my cycles and being off hormonal BC for the first time in a decade. We had initally planned to start trying in January, given the original 6 month waiting period for travelling to Zika areas.
What is keeping you waiting? Basically just the Zika waiting period. I recently discovered that the CDC updated their recommendations on waiting to just 3 months when both partners travel, while Canada’s Health Agency & WHO are still recommending a 6 month wait. As a Canadian, I feel I should follow the Canadian recommendations, but only waiting three months is sooooo tempting, and means we could start trying next month.
What is on your to do list before a baby? Figure out our housing situation a little more difinitively. We are looking to buy, but are waiting for the right house to come up in our tiny market. I have no problems staying in our rental during pregnancy or possibly the first few months if the right house doesn’t come along.
How are you keeping the baby fever at bay? Been doing lots of online research/reading, learning about my cycles, and focussing on enjoying the things I won’t be able to do when pregnant or with a baby (helloooo mountain biking!).
Any other Canadians/non-American bees have opinions on the Zika waiting period?
Post # 39
Age? I’m almost 28. Husband is almost 32.
Number of kids? 0
Where are you at right now and do you have plans to start trying? We got married in April. We plan to start trying sometime in 2020.
What is keeping you waiting? We’d like to be married for around 2 years before trying. We waited until marriage to sleep together and didn’t live together before marriage, so we’d like to take a few years to just enjoy each other without the distraction of children. My husband also just made a career change and is finishing up his degree. Ideally, I’d like to become a stay at home mother, so we need to wait a few years for that to be feasible.
What is on your to do list before a baby? We have some home renovations to do (would love to add a screened in porch!) and we’d like to take a nice trip in 2019 together. I’m not on BC (we’re using condoms), so when it’s time to start trying, we’ll be ready right away.
How are you keeping the baby fever at bay? I’m doing pretty good actually. I absolutely cannot wait to be a mother, but I feel very comfortable with waiting a couple of years. It feels like the right decision. I was so incredibly excited to get married, and right now, I am just basking in the married happiness 🙂
Post # 40
daisyqueen : that one year trip sounds amazing. Being around babies all day must root you in reality (the good and the bad).
Post # 41
mountaingal : The Zika thing is so frustrating. I was hoping to go south this winter (also Canadian and it gets cold) but am settling for a ski trip instead, just because I don’t want to wait that long (waiting ~4 months for the trip, plus the six for the Zika period). I had no idea the recommendations changed. I guess if you haven’t heard any symptoms and also talk to your doctor you’d probably be okay?
Post # 42
emily1030 : Gold for you just basking in your happiness of being married! Enjoying (and learning) to live together sounds awesome.
Post # 43
beetle72 : Yup! The CDC changed it at the end of August, but Health Canada and WHO haven’t updated their info since the beginning of the year. I think I’ll end up putting a call into my doctor to see what her thoughts are.
Nice on the ski trip! Where are you planning on going?
Post # 44
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
beetle72 : Ahhh thank you for starting this!
I figured I’d start it here for October, and if it takes off, I’ll start another for November.
Number of kids? 0
Where are you at right now and do you have plans to start trying? Went off the pill last cycle, but I’m now at CD45 and still no ovulation. Taking prenatals and trying to get in a bit better shape.
What is keeping you waiting? Definitely would love to start trying, but live in a high CoL area, so will save up for awhile instead. We were planning to try this fall, but re-evaluated and decided it made more sense to wait.
What is on your to do list before a baby? Save up! Cherish sleep! Enjoy time together, as just us. Travel! Hit some career goals.
How are you keeping the baby fever at bay? Ugh. No. It’s been terrible. I’m trying to get better, because it’s bringing me down.
Happy to join you all in this journey! <3
Post # 45
beetle72 : Thats the theory! She should be at least 3 by the time we have our first, so hopefully she will be a far calmer/ less destructive/ less energetic dog. There is no way I’d be able to handle a newborn and a puppy like her haha