(Closed) Waiting to TTC but not enjoying it

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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5148 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I hear ya!

We’re getting married next year, but I feel the clock ticking. I’ll be 28 when we get married. I want to have my first child before 30 and be done having kids before 35. We’re going to start TTC a month or two after we’re married. (We’ve been together 6 years, lived together for 4 of those years, so it’s not like we’re going to miss out on “us time” by TTC soon after the wedding.)

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am getting married in 6 months and will be 33 years old and all I keep thinking about is babies. I love planning the wedding but I am looking forward to babies. I want to try and wait 6 months after the wedding to start trying but I don’t think I can. We have been together for 8 years and living together for 2 years. Babies Babies Babies

Post # 5
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am with you.  We just got married in September, but I am sooooo ready to be pregnant.  Darling Husband wants to wait 2 years.  It’s like as soon as we got married, the baby fever kicked into high gear.  Before the wedding, I wanted to wait 3 years.  My head says to wait, but my heart is ready to go!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i hear ya, im not even married yet but i’ve told Fiance i want 1 year minimum before TTC. at first i was telling him 2 years but he keeps talking about having kids so i told him 1 and then we will talk. The more i think about it the more i want them sooner rather than later but at the same time i want that time to be husband and wife. I never though (being a girl) i would be pressured into having kids. normally isnt it the other way around? haha. but i know exactly how you feel my Future Sister-In-Law got married in august and is already preggo and i couldnt help but feel a little jealous when i found out even though im the one making the “rules” here or choosing to put it off….only time will tell. i bet i give in.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re trying to buy a house before we start TTC.  In our area, houses are about half a million dollars, so it’s frustrating to think that even if we saved my entire salary, we’ll be waiting at least 3 years to try to save up a decent downpayment.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m 35 and we’re getting married in December. That’s all I can think about too, babies babies babies!! It doesn’t help that my twin sister has been married 3 years and just had her first baby about a month ago. We’ve been together 3 1/2 years, so we’re planning on TTC next summer, about 6 months after the wedding. My sister had a hard time getting pregnant though – we both have Endo, so it could take us longer than other couples which makes me want to try sooner!

Post # 9
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ilovegaleharold I just wanted to say, I love Gale Harold, too.  Laughing

Post # 10
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1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am starting to feel it.  We’re not TTC until after DH’s done w/graduate school (2014).  I know logistically it can’t happen but sometimes I still get that “BABIES!!!!” feeling.  I just read up on the pain, cost, loss of sleep & things that could go wrong to bring me back to reality.  It works.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am 31 will be 32 when we get married and I cant wait to start a family.

I get so excited thinking about my Fiance being a daddy.  Some days I feel left behind, I have a younger sister who has a 7 yr old and is about to have another baby in a month. my future SIL is also about to give birth. and my ex husband and his wife just had a baby.  So Im feeling a little left out!

All that being said some days I am thankful that we are waiting, I enjoy sleeping in and honestly sometimes it scares me to think of all that responsibility and not to mention MONEY that kids cost.

It comes and goes in waves, Its always in the back of my mind but some days its like we need them now!!! Im running out of time!

Stupid biological clockYell I didnt really understand you till I hit 30

Post # 13
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I am 21 and have already had one child. My son is 5 months old but I know I want to have all my kids young so I really want to have another NOW. I was talking about having more when we were still in the hospital! I want to wait until after the wedding so I won’t have a baby bump  to try to work around but I don’t want to wait too. The only thing keeping me back is our financial situation. We can hardly afford the one baby, we couldn’t manage a second. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 14
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@spraguebride: Ugh I hear ya! Getting married next year and then waiting for maybe 4-6 years into marriage to start having kids. Some days I am glad we are waiting but others (like today) I have serious baby fever and TTC can not come soon enough!

Post # 15
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43 posts
Newbee

You are not alone at all and I wish you all the best of luck with ttc in the future xx.  I feel the same way.  We are getting engaged before Christmas (most likely before november is out) and we are both baby crazy at this stage ha!

The Canadian and I are both 33 for the record.  We met one year ago yesterday and part of the reason we are getting engaged now (apart from being a total match and very much in love) is that we can’t wait to start a family.

When we met, the mere mention of babies even casually, made him clear his throat and loosen his collar but after three months together, his attitude changed dramatically!

I agree that it is an ideal dream and one which may or may not happen for any of us who are waiting to ttc. I myself just had a minor cervical op on wed (all went well thankfully) and while I was at gynae, I complained to him of having alot of pain pre-menstruation so he scanned me and discovered a large cyst on my ovaries and some indication of endometriosis (which can hamper fertility). So he wants to open me up early next year.  All of this on the right side it seems so the left seems to be functioning ok. 

WHo knows what is down the line. 

Also, we are hoping to get married in May and have a small, intimate wedding. However, we talked and said that we have got to be responsible and just try and get over our baby fever until then as I don’t want to have to have my future dress taken out on the day hahaha!

My father’s face would be priceless in the photos though ;D

x

 

Post # 16
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3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m have had babies on my mind for the last few months but this month has been so bad.  Really bad.  My brother and his gf just had a baby 3 weeks ago and my close just had her baby girl last week.

I have to wait.  Darling Husband has had some health issues that caused him not to work as much as he did, so we are really hurting in our pocket right now.  I asked him if we could revisit the baby issue in 6 months. I hoping that things get better for us.

ETA:  Wanna know what is so bad? I spent hours looking up cloth diapers today (because of that cloth diapers post her on WB) and day cares.  I was obsessed.  I know its not helping looking at all of these baby related topics but I can’t help it.  ๐Ÿ™‚

 

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