(Closed) Waiting to TTC chat

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
Member
8067 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am waiting to TTC our #2. So I’m not as impatient as some of you all may be  My husband doesn’t care and wouldn’t care if I was already pregnant but I’d want to go to Vegas in March so I am until March 2016.  So it’s by my choice I guess

I’m not worried about pregnancy, delivery, or having a newborn since I’ve been through it all and sort of know what to expect and still have all of our baby stuff. Most of my concerns are just juggling 2 ( 2 baths, 2 bedtimes, 2 schedules, taking 2 out for errands). Since my 1st will be closer to 3 I am hoping her being more independent and helpful will be beneficial.  Oh and I guess I shouldn’t forget about extra daycare costs.  We will be paying about $866/mo ($200/wk) for a 2 year old when she turns 2 in April (it is about $958/mo for 1 year olds) which is pretty reasonable for the area.  Infant rates are more like $1200-$1300/mo.  So it should be approx $2k in daycare for a year for a 3 y.o and an infant.  Already have the family plan on insurance so at least my insurance rates won’t be rising!

I have been charting my cycles for a year now since I got my period back and didn’t want to go on BCP (or an IUD). So I know when I ovulate which will be very helpful. I still breastfeed though and have a shorter luteal phase (hopefully just due to extended breastfeeding). We conceived #1 in one lucky shot so not sure how BFing will affect me. Hopefully it won’t.

Not doing anything other than trying to keep my workouts up and stay in shape.

View original reply
teacherbee01:  3 mo is usually the recommended time frame.  If you decide to actively chart temps (most use Fertility Friend app) you can join the charters thread.  There are a few of us trying to avoid pregnancy for now but most others are TTC.  Those apps will “predict” your ovulation date but they are rarely accurate on the exact day.  It’s just a guess.  But a lot of people don’t feel the need to do that and just have lots of sex around their estimated fertile time.  Up to you!  I didn’t start charting to TTC I just did so I could TTA pregnancy by avoiding my O day.

Post # 17
Member
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My hubby and I were originally going to ttc in April 2016 but moved it up to Jan 2016. When I visited my doctor he suggested starting prenatals 3 months before hand. So I stopped taking the pill and started prenatals in October to prepare for Jan. However, baby fever hit both of us and we threw our timeline out the window lol. We’re about to start our 3rd month of ttc.

One of my really good friends just had a baby the other day and I can’t wait to meet him! Another family friend has a month old baby girl and baby snuggles are just the best 😍 We are so excited! I can’t wait til we are pregnant and can tell our famlies. My sister can’t wait to be an Aunty (she’ll be amazing at it) and my Mother-In-Law has been bugging us since our wedding 8 months ago lol. My best friend is TTC too so hopefully we’ll have babies a similar age 😊

One of my biggest worries is definitely how a baby will affect mine and hubby’s relationship. We have divorced parents so have both grown up in blended families. We both don’t want that for our kids. 

Post # 18
Member
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

we are waiting until February before we start TTC, i was wanting to start this month but with a few overseas holidays planned we thought we can start when we go which will be nice. that way i wont be so focused on TTC and just enjoy it  🙂

Post # 19
Member
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Waiting until Sep 2016.  We would like it to be after we get back from our honeymoon, given that we may have to take anti-malaria pills for the trip (Africa, woohoo!).  We are mid-late 30s, so will be starting as soon as it is clear.   I also have some new thyroid problems and ovarian cysts (it’s been a fun month of ultrasounds), so I’m focusing a long on my body now, getting everything healthy and as close to normal as I can.  I’m pretty excited, but grateful that my doctors caught these issues well before TTC :).   

Post # 20
Member
568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We were initially planning on April 2016 but now we’re thinking February 2016 (it’s tentative). I’ve been off the pill for a few weeks now and have started taking vitamins and omega 3 capsules. I would love to get pregnant right now and we’re of the mind that whatever happens, happens… 

I’m really looking forward to the moment we find out I’m pregnant. I often wonder what I’ll be thinking/feeling. I look forward to telling DH that he’s going to be a dad. I’m looking forward to pregnancy; to feel my body growing an actual human being. And of course, I can’t wait to hold that little bundle of joy in my arms (it sounds corny but it really does make my heart swell at the thought).

I’m not looking forward to labour; I’m a bit scared even though i have a good pain threshold. I’m not looking forward to worrying (will the baby be healthy? Etc). I’m a little concerned about getting enough sleep and also not being able to do the things we used to. I don’t want a baby to affect our relationship negatively but I think that is an irrational fear. I’m also worried about going back to work and not being able to spend the time i want to spend with our baby. Then of course I worry about stacking on the weight and not being able to lose it after baby – I’m 31 in April so i think it’s going to be harder to shift when the time comes. 

It’s really nice to be able to chat about these things 🙂

Post # 21
Member
719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

We are going to start TTC in February!! We would have already started, but my short term disability kicks in January 1, and you have to be on it for 10 months before you give birth.  I am actually going to the gyno today for my annual, but it’s perfect timing because I have alot of questions for her! Although we are not going to TTC until February, I am getting off my BC after this month.  I have been on it for going on 14 years, so I want my cycle to have some time to straighten out.

I’m probably most nervous about infertility issues.  My mom had me, and the rest of her pregnancies were miscarriages.  I also have the worst cramps known to man kind when not on BC (even when I miss a day or two), and I’ve heard that can be a symptom of endometriosis.  My friend has it and it’s been causing her issues with getting pregnant.

I’m most excited about telling DH when I’m pregnant and becoming a mom! Holding that sweet little baby in my arms, rocking him/her to sleep, seeing the first smile, the first laugh, first word, etc. I’ve been thinking alot lately about how everyone will react when I tell them! I’ve been looking into ways to tell DH, our parents, and our close friends!

Post # 22
Member
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens

In May of 2016 we’ll be NTNP, but if it doesn’t happen by Septemebr we’ll start TTC with some extra tracking and concerned efforts.

I can’t tell you how free I’ll feel not looking at the calendar to make sure we’re “good” .

I’m so nervous and excited about the month we concieve. Mainly beciase we are thinking about moving to a home with a better school district and jugglign pregnancy and a move during the same year seems a bit overwhelming, but that;s a whole nother story that I’ll spare you from for now.

Also, with the holiday season I keep thinking about how this may be our last one without beign parents. And how our entire holiday dynamic is going to change in the very near future, it’s all just bitter sweet.

What are you doing to get ready to TTC?:

  • I’ve been off birth control for the last 5 months becuase I had no libido with that darn nuvaring.
  • I “chart” to make sure w don’t concieve.
  • Talked to my OBGYN about conceiving and I’m in the process of doing general health blood work.
  • Starting folic acid soon.
  • Going to look into some prenatals in Jan/February.
  • Wrapping up my pending dental work.
  • Trying to stay healthy, eating right, exercising, etc.

 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 9 months ago by BreezyBride24.
Post # 23
Member
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens

View original reply
mrsfrendo11:  How exciting and exilerating to throw out the ogriginal timeline and take the plunge. We decided to push the NTNP timeline up a few months because we figure we just don’t know how long it with take to concieve. I feel like pregnancy is a land filled with an inordinate amount of unknowns…which is a bit torterous yet exciting for a planner like myself. Fingers crossed you you and all your future baby snuggles .

View original reply
Kannon:  Africa! So fun and exciting, sounds like you have lots to look forward to next year honeymoon and baby!

Post # 25
Member
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens

View original reply
teacherbee01:  Ohh how I wish I felt prepared! But I know we’ll all get there when the time comes.

Post # 26
Member
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

View original reply
teacherbee01:  we plan to start TTC in 2018… Guys help me this is going to be a looooong road. I want to cry. Gimme my baby. But 2018 is when we will be kid ready financially. We will have a tidy sum saved up half of which will be a college fund. Damn being responsible adults.

Post # 28
Member
39 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Southern Inn

We are going back and forth between waiting TTC and scheduling preconception visits at the doctor’s office. We actually did decide to go ahead with the preconception visit January 12th, 2016.  I have Interstitial Cystitis (chronic bladder condition) so I’m worried that my medications and medical issues will complicate the whole process, but that’s not a reason to put it off! Also, we are both in school and I graduate in May 2016, and he graduates in 2017 so we keep thinking we should wait until we are both out of school but because I’ll be 28 (tomorrow!), I think by the time we actually concieve and deliver, it might not be that far off from his graduation, if we start sometime in the Spring.

I am so excited to expland our little family of 2 to a family of 3. I had a less than perfect childhood and grew up in a family that didn’t exactly value progressiveness or prosocial behavior and I’m very excited to share that with my children. I want to show them the good in the world and how to contribute to it. I’m also excited about having a family on mine and my husband’s terms.  If we want to raise our children in certain way with certain values we can. We can mold our family into what we’ve both always wanted, on our terms. At least as far as values and religion are concerned. My husband and I are both nerds in our ways. He loves superheros and puzzles and I love books and learning. We are excited to share our loves with our children too, as they grow. I’m also so excited to see what personalities my children will have. I can’t wait to see what little people they will grow to be.

I’m also very excited about being pregnant in general.  Having a baby bump to carry around with me everyday throughout those 9 months and just remembering what a miracle it is that I am growing a tiny human inside! I’ve also been through countless baby showers with friends and relatives, so I’m excited to have one of my own! (Please, no dirty diaper games, haha)

I love hearing what you all are excited about! This is a great idea! It definitely helps with the waiting process to hear others thoughts and journeys too.  

Post # 29
Member
691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am waiting to TTC #2. We have an 21 month old daugther, and I just caught the baby bug again in the last few months. We are going to start in January 2016, so *hopefully* just one more AF for me! Can’t wait to say goodbye to her for at least 10 months, lol. I want to start trying this cycle, but DH decided for whatever reason that he doesn’t want a super preggo wife during the summer because then he won’t be able to do his outdoorsy stuff. So an October or later baby it is!

I had a very smooth pregnancy last time, and I’m hoping for the same this time around. Although I would appreciate a shorter labour (36 hours last time, baby!!!).

Post # 30
Member
1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’ll play. We have one son who is 19 months and we will start TTC #2 in June.

I’m both nervous and excited because I didn’t particularly enjoy the newborn phase so I am hoping new baby isn’t like my son was! I am also excited to wait until he/she is born before finding out the gender, because I didn’t wait last time. And of course I am excited to see my son become a big brother. However, I am nervous about sharing the attention – I don’t want my son to feel left out. AND – my son is an EXCELLENT sleeper – so I am not looking forward to the no sleep phase again!

The topic ‘Waiting to TTC chat’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors