- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
Hi bees! I have a bit of an exciting update! DH and I just returned from our honeymoon and while we were there I was finishing a pill pack and we decided that would be my last pill! We are really excited for this next chapter and I’ve been doing prenatals and had an appt with my doc before our trip and he gave me the go ahead to stop the pill whenever! I am so excited but nervous too! A good friend of ours just had a MC followed by an etopic pregnancy. She has two kids already but just goes to show you never know what is going to happen. I was originally going to do another cycle of the pill amd start ttc end of april but we both feel like since it could take a while a month or two won’t make much difference.
I did make some gains though! I had a doctors appointment yesterday just for a yearly physical, and we got on the topic of concieving. It was the first time that I actually said out TTC plans out loud to someone other that DH or on here… felt surreal. Then the doctor started talking about the things I needed to do in order to prepare, and it made it feel even MORE surreal. As if it was a lot sooner than I realized. She suggested I do blood work to check my thyroid (previous problems in the past) because if so I need to get on medication asap in order to start trying in 4 months. She also suggested I start taking prenatals. I know that typically you wait until three months before, but she said there was no harm in starting them now. CRAZY! I guess 4.5 months isnt as long as I think.
I will also admit my secret obsession with buying baby stuff. I know some people don’t like the idea of it, but in my mind, if I buy one thing here and there, it won’t seem financially as much when the time comes. I haven’t bought lots of stuff because I know that you get a lot at a shower, but stuff that I can’t see myself asking for at a shower. I had previously mentioned I bought some NY Giants pacifiers and clothes, but mostly to announce my pregnancy to DH. I also recently bought cute little closet organizers off etsy, and a carseat canopy that I got online for a great deal. If any of you are looking there is a sister company with all free items – you just pay shipping. For example, I got a car seat canopy for 20.00 (which was just the shipping). You can also get nursing covers, baby slings, nursing pillows, and more through these websites. There are promotional codes you just have to search. The one that works I think at all of them is “CCPARTNERS”. Check it out!
We are getting married this year, August 2016, and will be waiting to TTC until our one year wedding anniversary. I am happy we get a little more time that is just us, especially after we are married, but I am a little worried about our tight timeline.
I told Fiance that I would not have kids past 35 due to my own health issues. I also want to wait 2 years between each child because that is how long it takes the body to recover fully. Fiance completely understands both of these things and is fully supportive. The only issue? I am currently 30, so our timeline looks like this:
-Start TTC at 31.5
-Child #1 at 32
-Start TTC child #2 at 34
-Child #2 at 35
That timeline is really tight. What if we have difficulty TTC? What if something happens like a miscarriage? There are so many unknowns and we have not left any time for life to throw a curveball at us (which it always does).
I love the idea of adopting our second child if we don’t have our second child by the time I’m 35 (I always preferred the idea of adoption prior to meeting FI), but Fiance prefers to have bio kids (I think that is a guy thing). So I am a bit worried about any unforseen issues that might pop up while TTC.
I’ve considered discussing bumping up the timeline with Fiance, but I want a little more time to get into a better financial space and we also would like to move into a new house in the next 2-3 years and saving up a downpayment will be a lot easier without a child in the picture for a good portion of the time.
Would it be possible for me to come in please even though I’m not married yet?
I’ll post properly on the laptop tomorrow but briefly- we unexpectedly got pregnant a couple of years ago. A surprise but a very nice one. We lost the baby close to 20 weeks. We were blissfully happy with the pregnancy but because of the emotional trauma and it not being a good time to actively try for a baby then we got engaged we decided we should wait.
Fiance is a doctor and is changing jobs every 6-12 months at the moment, we don’t know where we will be living when the placement is up. It ends in August 2017, almost a year after we get married. Fiance will be able to apply for consultant jobs then then all being well we don’t have to move any more. We have decided we would like to TTC then.
Can I tentatively stick a foot through the door so I can at least read your posts please 😀
i like this thread! i have baby fever so bad! I thought i was possibly pregnant last week but last night proved me wrong haha. We plan on officially trying after we purchase a house which will (god willing) be at the end of this summer. I’m super nervous about money issues because i just feel like no matter how stable we are, what if something happens?? I’m sad about no wine and i’m nervouse about all the blood tests and my age as i’ll be 30. And the number one thing i’m terrified of is having a baby with health or mental problems. I’m super excited to see those 2 positive lines and figureing out a cute way to tell my husband and then telling our families. Pinterest has so many fun ideas! 99% of my friends have kids so it will be really exciting to finally join in on all the stuff i’ve felt left out of. I plan on seeing my gyno right before we begin so he can give me prenatal vitamins or any advice. Then from there fun every night!
As of now, DH needs to tie up a few loose ends within his career, and I just changed jobs in December, so I would like to be at my job for at least one year. Additionally, we always said we were going to take one BIG trip (we travel pretty regularly, but most of the time its for a long weekend or a few days) hopefully to Hawaii or Thailand. We do plan on road tripping with our family, so a lot of the closer trips we are just waiting to do for a few years.
Becoming an adoptive family will require us to go through some classes through our county and state, extensive background checks for DH and I, as well as those that will have our children in their care, and a home that is prepped for our children. Since our house is the typical first time home, it is older and will need a little TLC- new windows, updated electrical, and finishing off the second bathroom instead of just stalls for the toilet and shower in the basement.
While all of you beautiful bees that will be taking prenatals, charting, and visiting with your doctors, DH and I will be working with contractors, filling out paperwork, and meeting social workers 😀 We hope to get most of the home improvement started this Spring, and take our big trip by the end of the year. Here’s to hoping we will be TTA (trying to adopt) by January 2017.
Hello everyone!! This thread is great! I am anxiously waiting to TTC also! My husband and I have only been married for 6 months now. We are currently looking for a house, but we aren’t in a big hurry (other than to TTC), we want to find the right house. I keep trying to convice my husband that we have 9 months to find a house lol!! but I get where he is coming from and it would be nicer to be settled before TTC. We are hoping to be able to start this summer or fall. Every time I take my bc I just want throw them in the trash! or accidently forget to take a day or too (oops) ..haha jk.
We seriously have 5 pregnant family members, 4 new babies under 1 year. I am so jealous and can’t take it any more.
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