Post # 392
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Bumble bee
UPDATE!
Age: 28
When will you TTC?: We will stop preventing soon (like within the next few weeks), We will be NTNP
What are you doing to get ready to TTC?: Prenatal Vitamins
Do you chart? Link to the chart: No
What are the big plans for the summer?: we go to a bunch of car/motorcycle/truck shows
Post # 393
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1396 posts
Bumble bee
@candy11: Oh, I’m sad to read your update. I’m sorry. I think I would be devestated to feel so close to TTC and then not be ready after all. You’re definitely looking at it from the right perspective though, which is really good.
@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d: There’s still so much time until November. And if you think about it, even if you get a BFP right away, there’s still another 10 months to prepare. One of my friends was trying to convince me to start early because it took them 5 months of NTNP and another 4 of TTC and then after the 10 month pregnancy, it was quite a long time before they finally had their baby. She’s definitely trying to get me to move up my timeline based on her own experience but she’s not wrong…even once you start trying it can still be a long time before the baby is in your arms. That can be both nerve-wracking and sort of calming since you do get a lot of time to get yourself ready. Just make sure you talk to your DH about all of that….it can really help.
My DH is the opposite…he’s so ready to have kids he’d send me to the doctor to get the IUD out yesterday if he could. That doesn’t mean we’re in the right place for TTC just yet and the fact that I have to be the one to say, reasonably, “No no, we’re not quite ready. If we want to be financially secure, we need to do this list of things first.” is rather frustrating. Just imagine having crazy baby fever, being totally ready (emotionally) for years and having to be the rational one. It’s terrible.
Post # 394
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Buzzing bee
@MrsPaperFlowers: What an exciting update!
@artichokey: Having to be the rational “it’s not time yet” voice would drive me absolutely bonkers! I know that we have a ton of time left till there is an actual baby here, he just wants to work on making our relationship indestructable before we start trying. I think that he knows that I’m already feeling the pressure (women in my family are known to either get pregnant quickly but suffer multiple miscarriages or to take forever to get pregnant at all) and that it could be a stressful time for our relationship. Either way, we are both super excited and can’t wait for the next step, we just have to be prepared first.
Post # 395
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Bumble bee
@SeaTurtle88: Welcome! We are planning to start around the same time.
@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d: Ack, frustrating about your DH. I think my Fiance is freaking out as it gets closer (and we’re still a ways away).
@candy11: This is a bummer. Sending hugs your way!
What a crazy few weeks in baby news. Recently some friends who are adopting were matched with a baby boy (due in Oct). Then last weekend a couple that we’re pretty close to announced that they’re expecting in January! They’re the first in this particular friend group so it’s very exciting (and I feel like more will follow very soon). The mama-to-be sent out a funny attachment the next day– looked like it was actually printed in a book and said something like, “Remember, if your friends really cared about you, they’d get pregnant too.” Lol.
Then, one of FI’s best friends and his wife had their baby today!! Babies all over the place. Ahhhh.
Post # 396
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Helper bee
@Emma20130601: welcome! I am in the same boat as you — don’t want to talk about it to anyone really, most especially our families! They are notoriously nosy and I just don’t want the pressure. I also had Mirena until last week. Do you have any children? I was one of only a handful of my friends who had Mirena with no prior children. The nurses at my ob/gyn were shocked when I said I didn’t have any kids!
Post # 397
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Buzzing bee
@Almost Mrs.P: that is some exciting baby news! I wish that our group was a little closer to kids. We were the 3rd to get married out of 6 couples (but the two before us are both divorced and our group is still predominantly singles) and I think we’re the only ones close to trying. It would be nice to have another couple to go through it with!
Post # 398
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Helper bee
@mrspitcher8: My in-laws kept pressuring me before the wedding, almost every time we saw them they would make a comment about babies. I tried to steer the conversation polietly away from the topic until one day I snapped “Can we get this wedding done with before we start thinking about kids?” This was about 1 month before the wedding 😛 lol I think they got the point! 🙂
Nope, we don’t have any children. I had Mirena put in almost 2 years ago. Best. Decision. Ever! I was thinking of taking out my Mirena in January and start trying in March or so. Did it hurt to get taken out?
Post # 399
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Honey bee
Holy moses i have been MIA for a very long time with the wedding. Still planning to stary TTC in January, but we might hold it off. I’m no longer in a rush to have a child and we definitely want to enjoy our marriage and enjoy eachother before welcoming a baby. So i pretty much dont have a set month to start hahah. But i will be off BC right away so who knows.
Post # 400
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Buzzing bee
@Swizzle: I’m definitely a fan of just spending a little time as a married couple before taking the next step! Over the past few months we’ve built nice little memories that we can think about when future baby is screaming their head off at 3 am 🙂
Post # 401
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Helper bee
@candy11: Beautiful chart! I don’t know if I can wait a whole year… After the wedding the baby rabies are getting CRAZY! This would be a lot easier if people would like, stop putting their adorable children on Facebook and taking them out in public and stuff.
ETA: Whoops, sorry, didn’t read ahead!
Post # 402
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Newbee
Hi all.
Im going to have a break from the bee. Hubby just isn’t ready and I’m driving myself crazy with all this talk of babies. It’s getting to the point where it really hurts.
Please take me off the list. Thanks for your support.
Post # 403
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Buzzing bee
@cap71n: I’m sorry to hear that you’re leaving us, but I completely understand. (((Hugs)))
Post # 404
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Busy Beekeeper
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
@cap71n: Sorry to hear this. I know it can be painful to know your other half is not ready. It’s a big commitment but one that must be shared. Best of luck!
Post # 405
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Buzzing bee
Hi bees! I started a new thread since this one was getting long! Come join us for Roll Call!
Waiting to TTC Chat: Part V