(Closed) Waiting to TTC – Part VIII

posted 8 years ago in TTC
Post # 557
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448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@FreckledFox:  Oh man, I can totally imagine being where you’re at. My husband and I are both the oldest, though his sister has been married for five years now compared to our 8 months. She and her husband have gone back and forth as to whether they are ready for kids, generally leaning towards no, whereas my husband and I are planning to start trying come April. However, I still have moments of “oh man, what if she gets pregnant before then?” While I’d obviously be elated for her, excited about our new niece/nephew, and happy that we might be able to be pregnant together- the whole “first grandchild” is still lurking in the back of my mind. I don’t even know why, his family definitely does not care about that stuff. And she has been married for way longer… so yea. But I’m happy for you and your sister, but totally get why you’d be a little dissapointed. 

Post # 558
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@FreckledFox:  That’s tough, good for you for looking at the bright side!

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@KatiePi:  Hmm since you have a quite awhile to go, I’d think about the reasons for choosing that timeline and either reevaluate (hey, baby fever can be serious!) or find an awesome project that will take a lot of time and help distract you.  And you can always find a sypathetic ear on the bee πŸ™‚

Post # 559
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@fallingleaves:  Thanks. πŸ™‚ When I think about our reasons for waiting, practically I’m totally on board and think it’s a great idea to just enjoy a few years of marriage alone. When those emotions arise though, crap they are strong. It’s nice to know I can get them out here without worry of being judged. 

Post # 560
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422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Figured I should do a roll call.. I had a chemical a couple months ago and it kind of threw me for a loop. Then I got a really fantastic job which I am using to pay off my student loans (all 36,000 of them… ugh) and having the job and seeing that debt balance really sucked the baby fever out of me, since I was more busy and then I realized how it would be better to pay off all those loans before baby… But now all my friends are pregnant it feels like. And the one I was supposed to start trying with again this year just told me last night she is pregnant and… well I’m just so sad. Sad for the one I lost, sad that I’m having to wait… It’s just hard and DH doesn’t really understand. He’s very practical so he doesn’t understand that I want a baby so badly even though logically it isn’t the right time. Anyway haha. Now we are waiting a lot longer so we can bust out those loans. Then it’s baby time. Only 18 more AF’s to go haha.

Age: I’m 22, DH is 24

When will you TTC?: June 2015 (2 year anniversary!)

What are you doing to get ready to TTC?: I chart as birth control, so I guess I’ll already know how to do that when the time comes. Also, taking prenatals just to get in the habit of it. And getting into really good shape because I might as well enjoy my pre-baby body while I can!!

Do you chart? Link to the chart: I do but I don’t have the link right now… I’ll link to it next post πŸ™‚

What are your non-baby New Year’s resolutions?: pay off $15,000 of student loans, work out more often, and learn how to run. I have no endurance, but I want to be able to run 10 miles without having to walk by the end of the year. I don’t care about speed, I just want a little endurance.

Post # 561
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@future_mrs_s:  Sorry to hear about your chemical. That must have been really tough to go through, especially when you want a baby so bad. I think it is great though that you are trying to get rid of your student debt before TTC. You will be so happy to that you did once that little baby comes and you are debt free! But at the same time I can completely understand the feeling of wanting a baby so bad even though it may not be practical right now! Is June 2015 set in stone or is there a possibility to move it closer at all? 

Post # 562
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422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@emsy3110:  Thank you, it was so hard. I had a squinter for two days on wondfos, and then a nice dark BFP on a frer at night, and woke up to AF. It was a lot harder than I expected. But it just made me want a kid that much more, so now going back to waiting is the worst! I mean… The June 2015 would lead to all the loans being paid off a couple months before the baby would get here, since I plan on working during my pregnancy. But…

 I mean I’d be comfortable starting sooner, because it could take a while to get one that sticks, and plus my work has really great long-term leave perks… I think it’s two months at 80% pay, and then 4 more months at 60% pay. So that could go toward the loans should we have a baby sooner. I’m just trying to plan on June 2015 because I don’t want to get my hopes up if we don’t start sooner. It just is hard, especially when everyone around me is getting pregnant, and they are in a worse financial spot than we are. Sigh.. I know it wuld be for the best though. Just hard when originally we were planning on trying so much sooner. Realistically with my loans and our payment plans and stuff, it’s possible we could start trying this December. So… I mean that’s not the worst πŸ™‚

Post # 563
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@SadieBee:  I’m new here and posted that my husband and I were waiting until early to mid 2016 to begin TTC. After a talk tonight, we’ve pushed up our timeline to beginning in May/June 2015! So excited and happy to be a part of such a supportive thread!

Post # 564
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Emma20130601:  I am fighting that “why am I not pregnant” feeling these days…. I don’t have any advice, just commiserating.  As PPs  have said, trying to focus on things that I couldn’t do if I were pregnant…. but it’s hard!

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@emsy3110:  I have been having the same feelings about THIS YEAR!!  So crazy (in a good way).  Yes, I have been able to determine ovulation even without being perfect  on my times for temping…. I think it’s a little different for everyone, but I’d definitely give it a shot.

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@future_mrs_s:  Oh, logic…. so annoying.  Esp where babies are concerned!  Sorry to hear about your chemical.

Post # 566
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

So now I am going to have to plan a baby around my work’s busy season- and since my husband and I are long distance until June and I don’t want to try for only two months and then stop- we will be pushing it off until February 2015.

It makes me a little sad, but at least we will have a larger cushion.

Post # 568
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273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well DH and I are officially TTC now! We were ntnp jan and feb as he was away for work during my fertile week but this month and next month he will be home for it so we have decided to start early. We were aiming for June at the earliest but decided on New Year’s Day that we really had nothing to wait for! So excited, fingers crossed we don’t have to wait too many cycles

Post # 569
Hostess
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@missfrillycoat:  I don’t think either family would care about who was first, I don’t even know if my sister would’ve cared. I think it’s just me and my crazy mind!!! Each day get easier. If all goes well, we could be preggo buddies for two months or so… so maybe that could be good? Not sure yet!

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@SadieBee:  I wanted that stroller SO BAD Hahah!  Also, I think my TTC date says July. Can you move me to August 2014 on the next list please? Thanks.  πŸ™‚

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@future_mrs_s:  Wow I wish I had those maternity benefits! I have to sign up for short term disability, and it’s 100% pay for 2 weeks (vaginal birth, 4 weeks C-section), then 40% anything after that. But only if you have a doctors note that says you can’t work. It’s great for a little bit, then sucks!

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@accorn:  Sorry about having to push your date.  :/  It’ll all work out for the best!

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@Charlie89:  FX for you!!! That’s great news!

Post # 570
Hostess
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Is anyone going to start a new thread?  I will if no one is up for it!!!

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