Post # 62
@Mrs. Coyote: bahaha!! Yeah, I would be running too!! lol I’ve told a handful of friends – those that I know who can keep it to themselves. One had her 1st baby in November and is an incredible source of information and patience for all my questions lol one of the others is supposed to start trying in July so we might be pregnant together (which would be so much fun!) Then the other 2 are my best friends.
We’re trying to steer clear of telling our parents, especially DH’s as they think we should have had kids the first year we were togeher lol They’re excited to become grandparents. Usually we give the line “We’ve talked about it but we’re just enjoying being alone together right now”.
Post # 63
@fallingleaves: That’s great, sounds like a positive conversation. And June/July will be here before you know it… we are TTC then too! Ahh!
So exciting! I am like that too… verbal diarrhea!! I just can’t shut up. We are also avoiding telling our parents, though– they will all lose their minds with excitement, and I don’t want the pressure of them knowing we are planning/trying/etc.
Post # 64
@SaltedCaramel: LOL! I say that too verbal diarrhea and my DH HATES it lol My ILs are grandbaby crazy. Every chance they get they talked about babies and how all their friends are grandparents but they’re not and it’s not fair 😛 My parents are a little more mellow. My dad doesn’t say much but my mom will be excited but then will flip and be like “are you sure you want a baby right now?”
Post # 65
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
Bahaha, I definitely suffer from verbal diarrhea! Honestly though, it is better that we aren’t telling people. I wish I could, but I get the feeling that my friends will be less than supportive and I just don’t want to go down that road until we are actually pregnant. I love our friends to pieces, but almost all of them are single and a good number of them are childfree by choice (CBC? or CFBC?). I don’t know if they are going to love the fact that we want kids. The only friend that I would tell is totally absorbed in her wedding right now and would probably make it about her. Blah. Our parents, on the other hand, will be over the moon excited for us and I am sure we will sneak some hints in here or there as baby making time gets closer.
Although it might not make a difference. I told my mom about my angiogram, she asked why, I made some vague comment about if we ever wanted to have kids in the future and she response was, Oh, I thought you guys didn’t want kids? Well, you should probably have the angiogram anyways just to check on how things are going.
HA! So, bullet dodged, I guess??
Post # 66
@Mrs. Coyote: That’s too bad that you think your friends wouldn’t be supportive. I get not wanting to tell them in that scenario until you’re actually pregnant. Sometimes getting other people’s opinion just makes things so much worse and confuses you. Just stick to this thread and we’ll support you!! 🙂
That’s great that you were able to tell your mom about your test without going into too much detail as to why! I know I don’t want to tell my mom about my doctor’s appointment because she’ll freak (in a good way I think lol). Hopefully I can come up with a vague answer like you did! lol
Post # 67
@SaltedCaramel: I’ve been good about not talking about kids. My family knows we want them sooner then later but they dont know we are secretly hoping for a honeymoon baby
I’m glad you were able to talk to your mom about things. In a way its dodging a bullet. You were able to be vague and when you become pregnant your mom will be supportive. I’m in the same boat with my friends, they could care less my wanting of babies.
My in laws and my own parents want grandchildren asap!
Post # 68
Age: 23 DH is 27
When will you TTC?: Spring 2015
What are you doing to get ready to TTC?: Trying to become more healthy, researching TTC after the mirena, budgeting, tracking ovulation, paying of debt, completing home projects
Do you chart? Link to the chart: I want to start
What are your non-baby New Year’s resolutions?:
Graduating college (April 2014)
Landing a teaching job
Putting hardwood floors in my house
I have found that waiting to TTC is one of the hardest things I have ever done!!! I just want to start NOW! I recognize that I should teach for at least a year before getting pregnant though. I could wait to get my masters and be tenured as well, but I just do not think I can wait that long. :/
Post # 69
When will you TTC?: September 2014, this year!!! Ahhh
What are you doing to get ready to TTC?: Going in for a physical next month and letting the doc know the plan. See what I should be doing. I already work out regularly. I’ll start eatting healthier too though.
Do you chart? Link to the chart: Not yet. We’re going to NTNP for the first 2 cycles at least.
What are your non-baby New Year’s resolutions?: Just focusing on getting married. We will be TTC on the honeymoon. After nearly 5 years together, we’re more than ready. (Well, I’m ready, he’s terrified and excited at the same time)
It’s just so crazy that in 9 months, we’ll be attempting to start a family. I’m honestly more excited for TTC than the wedding. It seems so soon yet so far away. So excited for this year 🙂
Post # 70
Age: 26, but I’ll be 27 on the 24th of this month
When will you TTC?: November 2014 (our 2nd anniversary!)
What are you doing to get ready to TTC?: I’ve been taking prenatals for probably about a year now. I also plan to go off BCP in August as suggested by my doctor. I was just diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes in October, so I’m trying to get comfortable with all that comes with it. I have my annual exam next week and I’m anticipating that they will switch me to a high-risk OBGYN as well (due to the diabetes).
Do you chart?: No.
What are your non-baby New Year’s resoultions?: My resolution is to run at least one race a month in 2014. 🙂
Post # 71
@MechEBee: I know what you mean about being more excited about TTC than the wedding. The closer it got to my wedding the more I just wanted to be done with all the wedding planning and wanted to think/talk/dream about babies all the time!
Great job telling your mom in a subtle way! That’s my plan of action if my mom was to come to our house and see my prenatals. I’m just going to play it cool and say that they are good to take in general if you plan to have a baby in the next few years.
@Emma20130601: @Mrs. Coyote: @SaltedCaramel:
It’s so hard not telling people! I feel like at one point I will just need to casually tell me mom in a conversation! But then again my parents REALLY want grandbabies asap so telling them would be more pressure on us than anything. I think I will tell 2-3 of my very close friends because 2 of them will most likely be pregnant or TTC around the same time so we can all support each other during that time! Thank god for the bees and being able to tell you girls anything!!
Post # 72
@emsy3110: I’ve only told 2 of my friends that we’re going to be trying. I don’t want to have to explain why it isn’t happening to my friends and family if we don’t get lucky on the first few cycles. I’d probably tell my mom and sister before the first trimester so they could be there for me in case of a MC. But I’d rather they didn’t know while we were trying. That’d be too much stress.
Post # 73
When will you TTC?: April 2014 (88 days!)
What are you doing to get ready to TTC?: Trying to not drink as much (I’ve gotten so so much better over the past 3 months), Trying to eat less sweets (not nearly as good at this), and exercise more.
Do you chart? Link to the chart: I use an app on my phone, but no temping.
What are your non-baby New Year’s resolutions?: To make a good number of strides at work. I have two things coming up in particular that could really help my career, so I want to do the best I can with them. I also want to be better at keeping our house clean. I hate dishes with a passion 🙂
Post # 74
@Mrs. Coyote: Hah! It sounds like we have very similar friends. I’ll be the first of mine to try to a baby, so I know it will be hard for them to wrap their minds around (the wedding was hard in itself). However, I’ve actually taken the opposite approach and started talking to them about it for a while now. The first time was like 6 months ago and I just told them again that we are going to start trying in April. That way I figure they have time to get used to the idea before anything happens.
I was the same way with my husband. About a year and a half ago I brought up the idea, then six months later I told him about when I’d like to start and that opened up discussion, then so on and so on. Now I’m showing him Pinterest ideas for nurseries and he’s showing me ones he likes. That way it’s less of a “future” thing and it becomes a bit more tangible and real (especially since he won’t be the one carrying the baby).
Post # 75
@missfrillycoat: Woohoo for 88 days but who’s counting right? I’m not sure many people like dishes I know I despise them! My Fiance and I are coming to your city for part of our honeymoon!!
Post # 76
@Emma20130601: That’s definitely exciting! It’s a step forward toward this thing you really want! I felt the same way when I stopped taking the pill in July – it felt like this really big deal thing when I was taking my last. pill. ever.
Welcome! I totally agree about waiting to TTC being extremely difficult. I really *felt* ready a year ago, but DH wasn’t ready yet and it just wasn’t a good time for us yet. It’s hard to put off something that so important, but it’s usually for good reasons.
Happy early birthday!
What kinds of races do you run?
@emsy3110: @MechEBee: @Emma20130601: @Mrs. Coyote: @SaltedCaramel
: We’re also trying to avoid telling people IRL about our plans to TTC, but it’s really hard! Especially when you’ve been planning it for awhile – DH and I have been talking about it and getting more comfortable with our plans for the last year. Of course, people ask, so we try to just talk about it more generally (“We want kids, but we need to finish school/get jobs/get a house first!”), but we have slipped up and told a few people. My BFF knows, and my brother knows we want to try soon (because he’s pushy and just straight up asks, and I feel more open telling him because I know he and his wife are trying right now). I don’t want the pressure of having people know, though, if it takes awhile – my oldest brother and his wife told us all when they started trying, and then it never happened. I’d hate to be dealing with those emotions and also have everyone eyeing me for signs of pregnancy all the time.