(Closed) Waiting until AFTER Catholic Church requirements to Pick Date?

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

Um…. no. The first thing we did was pick a date! You have to book the church, after all! In our first meeting with the priest who married us, he asked us for a date – same with our first meeting with our coordinator/counselor. We didn’t NEED to have a date at the first meetings, but it was easier for them to organize our precana process if they knew our wedding date. Either your local church does things differently, or that person didn’t know what they were talking about

Post # 4
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Busy bee

We booked our church at our very first meeting. As far as the six months,  if you and Fiance are pretty available the church stuff can be completed pretty quickly besides some things that may require waiting for a specific evening/weekend for a class.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Can you speak with another church, or are you set on getting married there?  Some churches can make it more complicated.

We are having a catholic wedding, not mass, at the church near my parents’ house.  My fiance was not baptized and they gave us no issues with setting a date, marrying us, etc.  I am registered at a church where we live (about 2 hrs from where we are getting married) but the chuch marrying us didn’t require anything like that.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

BoriNena89:  With our church, we had our first meeting in late July, did our inventory test & results meeting in August, attended the engaged encounter retreat in October and had our last meeting with our priests in early January – so it was about 6 months, but our last meeting with our priests was really delayed because he was really busy at the time. We probably could have finished everything in 4 months in a smaller parish – our parish is actually the main Cathedral of our surrounding diocese, so our priests are always super busy. 

Perhaps she thinks it’ll take longer because you aren’t a member of the parish? I’ve heard of some of our local churches requiring you to be a member at least 6 months before you can book the church for your wedding. I had a friend from our of town that wanted to get married locally – she ended up getting married in a little church just outside of town becuase everywhere else in town required you to be a parish member for 6 months to a year. That church let them get married there without being a member.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We picked our wedding date before speakign with the priest (although we did confirm he was available) – we had 8 months to plan our wedding.  You should definitely be fine to pick a date for the wedding now, especially if it’s that far in advance (July next year)… Have Fun! 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You’ll have to register at a church before you meet with a priest.  But you shouldn’t have to do all the paperwork and classes before picking a date!

Our church required us to book the wedding date in person with the priest, during the first meeting.  Then after the first meeting we did all the paperwork and the marriageprep class

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You can get married in the church in PR even if you aren’t registered there, but you will need to get a form from your local parish (here in Canada it is called a Form 3) which is signed by the priest of your church that gives you permission to be married at a different church.  So if you register at a church close to your home, you would get a form from that priest which you would give to the secretaries in PR.  You’ll have to find out, but I would think that if you complete the marriage prep course locally that should also count in PR, but I’m not sure. 

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