Post # 1

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Worker bee
I am a christian who has just rededicated herself to God and I plan on living according to his commands and pleasing him at all times. My BF is a christian but i am not entirely sure of his relationship with God because his family does practice other ceremonies to other gods (i am not comfortable with this though). We have decided to save ourselves until the wedding night and it is so hard but so far we haven’t had any slips. (we are both not virgins). My problem is that i want him to have a relationship with God because i would like God to be the basis of our lives and our marriage. How can i help him get more closer to God? Should I just pray and wait? The other thing is that we live 5 hours apart. I live in Swaziland and he is in South Africa so we see each other once in 2 or 3 months
Post # 3

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Bumble bee
@Smurfylove82: I don’t know your relationship of course, but I think that the best way for me to help someone find God is to love them and be tender with them, as of course you already are with your SO. I feel like I have an easier time drawing closer to God if when I know that the people I care about will love me regardless of my imperfections. When I don’t feel a need to defend myself it’s easier for me to improve. Congratulations on finding God and a wonderful person to share your life with!
Post # 4

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Worker bee
I would say pray pray pray! My fiance has always believed in God but he has only recently really begun to truly dedicate himself to Him. I believe along with praying for someone the best way to bring him closer to God would be for him just to see you living by example. Be patient and kind with him and above all else love. Because love never fails and God is love! Im sure in time your man will have a heart on fire for God!
Post # 5

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Bumble bee
Pushing your religion on somebody else is not okay. You cant just change a big thing about him to suit your own beliefs. What if he was Muslim and wanted you to become closer to his God... or if he
prayed for you
. That does not show respect for him as an autonomous human being.
Post # 6

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Newbee
Pray, pray, pray! I encountered a similar situation with my husband now. We recently got married and he did not understand the relationship I had with God and the love I feel for Him. I really want him to have that experience but he just doesn’t understand, so I started praying. Our church has prayer services at 7am so I started going and praying then suddenly last week my husband decided he wanted to join me without me trying to push him to join me! I was surprised and realized that I alone wasn’t able to persuade him to at least start establishing a relationship with God but that God was answering my prayers.
Once again, keep praying – “Never stop praying.” (1 Thessalonians 5:17)
Post # 7

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Worker bee
@Lanegra: You situation has given me hope. I indeed believe in the power of prayer and i will see changes. I believe one day me and my FH will sit and read the bible together, meditate and pray together.
Post # 8

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Worker bee
@teabiscuit: He is a christian I am not imposing my beliefs on him, i just want him to have a closer relationship with God and know him more than he knows him now.
Post # 9

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Worker bee
@lovemylife88: I agree, thanx. I will have to live by example and probably we need to read the bible together or share it via emails since we live so far from each. but in the mean time i will pray for God’s intervention and the rest will follow
Post # 10

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Worker bee
@MsCarabiner: Thankyou, i will indeed continue to love him as he is and wont attack him or nag him to be more dedicated to God. I guess i will stick to prayer because i want him to get to know more about this wonderful relationship i have with him