Post # 31
watiekatie : Youve pretty much summarized that YOU have improved his life, and he has done nothing but yo-yo between hurting you or making you question your worth.
This relationship has you trauma bonded. You feel like he owes you something for your pain and time. You resent him wasting your years from 33 to 37.
Yes it DOES SUCK that you spent your energy on him because all you’re left with now are questions.
Please don’t waste more energy on this guy. Use your time money and interest on a counselor who can help you heal and get to the root of staying with a guy like this. Best wishes
Post # 32
Where is your survival instinct? You are on track to let this man ruin your entire life.
You should really be in therapy to try to improve your feelings of self worth. You bought land for a man who has not committed to you in any way. You give him lavish vacations while he does nothing for you. He hid a whole child from you! That is enough reason to leave him.
Forget about the proposal, and marriage and kids with him. He already has 4, and possibly more that he has lied to you about. This man is a lying, cheating leech. He is destroying you, even your livelihood, while you give him everything. Run before your business fails and you’re left with nothing, because he will not help you then. He’ll dump you the second you can’t fund his vacations anymore, and I have a feeling you know this.
Please let go of the idea that you deserve marriage for putting up his crap. You do deserve marriage, and kids, but with an actual partner, not him. But first you have to save yourself from this. You should start seeing a therapist, focus on reviving your business, and maybe freeze some eggs. I’m not saying you’re getting old, but freezing healthy eggs may give you the peace of mind to make good decisions for yourself rather than staying in another terrible relationship
Post # 33
How much child support is he paying?
Post # 34
Omigod, that makes it far worse than it originally appears. I sincerely hope OP sees your post and acts on it.
Post # 35
He doesn’t want to marry you. But I don’t understand why you would want to be with him anyway?! Dump him, sell your land, and move on with life.