Post # 1
This is my first post, appropriate that it’s in the waiting board. . .
Anyway, like so many of you I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and I’m itching for the proposal.
A little background…. he’s been engaged twice before – I’m 39 he is 40. I was once married – the older you get the more bumps you have along the way. Anyway, we are quite happy one another, having a house and two dogs you’d think the ring would be in there somewhere.
Friends and family (his) make remarks about it. I’ve made little comments here and there, nothing over the top but when a situation arises that I can say something about it, I do. I suppose I shouldn’t but when you have a friend that just got engaged last month and another friends wedding to go to next month – it puts you in that, mood.
You know the mood I’m talking about.
What to do?
I try to be patient. He obviously knows how much I want to be engaged. I know he wants to be my life partner, we talk about the future, what we want to do when we retire, etc…. but hey, aren’t we skipping a step or two? 🙂
I guess I just wanted to vent. I also want to know what you are doing to help ease the waiting game?
Post # 4
I totally understand what you are going through…I dated my Fiance for 5 years before he proposed. I know you love him, and it is very hard to watch your friends and family get married. I stopped thinking about it and talking about it and one day he finally proposed. He took forever, because he wanted to be financially stable. To make matters worse we attended 9 wedding together, after each one I was boiling inside, and I was starting to resent him…. Waiting is hard, but if you know he is the one it will be well worth it. Good Luck , I hope you get your ring soon!
Post # 5
Welcome! I’m in the 4 year waiting boat with you! =) will be 5 in a couple months.
Its hard, but the bee helps a lot!!!! =) just come on here anytime you want to vent.
Post # 6
Thank you for the warm welcome ladies!
Yes. Sometimes I feel resentful. When I do I take a step back and think about all the good things in our relationship… because he is very good to me, otherwise I’d not be with him.
For example, I’ve never been to Disney. We just got back from Magic Kingdom last week, (it was my birthday present).
It’s just those moments that creep up when you feel most vunerable.
I hate feeling that way.
I imagine I’ll post here a lot.
Until the ring comes. 😉
Post # 7
Welcome- I hope he proposes soon!
Post # 8
I am in the same situation. 4 years today! I have been somewhat resentful as well. It’s hard to wait. It’s hard to keep focused on other things. We just went to his cousins wedding last week. They met, got engaged and married in less than the time we have been together. It was a hard one to attend but, I am happy for them and it was a gorgous wedding!
I don’t even think my BF has even bought a ring yet! He knows what we want because we did shop for them 2 years ago. Every day is frustrating. Thank goodness for the Bees. I know I’m not the only one in this situation and It’s great to have some friendly advise and support.
Good luck and keep us posted.