Post # 1
I’ve been lurking for a while and finally decided to post for the Bees opinions. 🙂 I’m middle thirties and was in a very long term relationship that ended badly.
Fast forward, I met the love of my life two years ago. We both know that marriage is in our future and have discussed it several times. In most aspects, are lives are pretty darn good, except the waiting. It has caused me several bouts of depression lately and I’m starting to question our relationship. Yes, we’ve been together only two years, but I feel we are both mature enough in our lives to know what we want but no proposal. My SO says he wants to ‘do things right’ but it sounds like he’s not able to do that finacially….yet. I’m trying to be patient but it’s driving me insane.
Post # 3
@LuckyInLoveInPA: OMG, you sound like me and your SO sounds like mine! It’s soooo frustrating! He won’t stop telling me “Oh it’s not the right time, I need to do this right, we don’t have enough money” etc. Being patient for so long is starting to make me get upset every so often, and I’m waiting for a few other big things too. Waiting sucks!
Post # 4
@LuckyInLoveInPA: that’s me 2 I’m 30 he’s just 33. Together 2.5 years. I just want to get on with it! We both know this is out we both know we want kids and sooner rather than later! Just last night he said to me when can we have kids? I was like when we are married. It’s like come on already. I’m really conscious of time, and it gets me down too when other ppl get engaged or another special event or surprise treat ends in no proposal 🙁 don’t worry there’s plenty of us out there! We will get our happy ending!
Post # 5
I’m exactly there too, mid thirties, 2 and half years, financially, profesionaly, emotinally stable, but he wants to wait to get married. He wants to get married! He just doesn’t want to get engaged yet. I don’t get it at all, and we have many fights about it! 🙁 It always start calm, and ends very badly, like just a few minutes ago. I’m at my wits ends, don’t know what to do! We live together in his place, and I want to move out until I am legit there (for now, we are nothing, so for anything important related to the place, I just don’t exist) anyway, I want to move out and he’s so mad, he thinks I’m unfair and all. I AM unfair???? What about him, making me live like that and he could make everything right in a minute, but he wants to WAIT?? What for? Doesn’t have a ring yet, he is not trying for a surprise. He is really just making me wait. I could scream!
Post # 6
I’m hoping that this site becomes my therapy to help me deal with the waiting! 🙂 I feel a little better with others in a similar situation.
Post # 7
@LuckyInLoveInPA: As a waiting bee too, I can say that having other people in the same position than I am, makes me feel better, especially when someone goes out of the waiting zone…