(Closed) Waiting with the ring is harder than without!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

He’s paying on my ring, and should have it next week. I just spend lots of time planning and pricing things for the wedding. I’m also slightly addicted to this site, haha. Good luck waiting, and hopefully it won’t be too long.

Post # 4
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My ring has been hiding in my house for over a month now. It’s like torture!! Let’s hope we both get our proposals soon!! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I am pretty sure mine has the ring too. My dad told me I better leave him alone or it will just take him longer to ask, SO I am trying very hard to not mention getting engaged. It is so freaking hard, and I am afraid if he waits much longer, I won’t even be excited because I will have spent so much time trying to convince myself that I don’t care! I just don’t understand why he won’t ask already…I already made it very clear that he doesn’t have to put on some big proposal show like all of our friends have done! So, I FEEL YOUR PAIN, and it will get harder and harder. Sorry. 🙁 

I tried going to the gym, getting my hair done, etc like some bees suggest, but I think it had an opposite effect. Haha…I would chip a nail and get angry at him (inside) because he had wasted another maincure! I know it sounds insane…

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

All I can offer is that at least ladies who know a ring is in his posession, or being paid off, you know he has put his money and time where his mouth is and taken steps towards asking you.

Many of us have no such consolation, and are waiting while grasping at any hope that he is going to do SOMETHING someday, and mkae his actions match his words and claims of wanting you around ‘forever’.  

If he has the ring, or is working on getting it, it’s a bit like waiting for Christmas – you know it’s coming, but can feel very impatient it’s not here yet.  Yet.

So try to take a minute and remember how it felt BEFORE a ring was ‘in progress’, or before your family was asked if that’s part of your journey, and try to feel a bit better that you have more reason to believe something is in the planning stages than only his unacted upon words spoken to a crying woman (or even rational woman) during a waiting meltdown.  

You’re a lot closer than many, and ahve less time to wait barring the unexpected.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

I think I would be going absolutely crazy if I knew he had the ring…I don’t think he will tell me when he gets it, and I really don’t want to know because I know that the anticipation would kill me! So I have no advice lol…other than what the PP just posted, I would try to focus on the fact that at least you know he has the ring so you can rest easy and know that the proposal is on it’s way! And get your nails done! 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ahhh I know how THAT feels. We got engaged October 1 but I stumbled upon my ring in a perfectly innocent way (and two more times, he kept moving it but not in places I never look! ARGH!) and it was the longest 2 weeks of my life til he asked! Hang in there!

Post # 10
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m 99% sure mine is ready to be collected- ever sithen I figured that out things are going so slowly it’s as though time is going backwards- Arrgh!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

Oo that sounds really pretty! I usually try to do my nails at home too, saves a lot of money especially because I’m a nurse so I pretty much would have to redo them every 3-4 days…

Post # 13
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Helper bee

@Isilme:  If he has the ring, or is working on getting it, it’s a bit like waiting for Christmas – you know it’s coming, but can feel very impatient it’s not here yet.  Yet.

I completely agree.

Isn’t it more reassuring to know ‘your’ ring exists and is on its way, than the void in our parallel universe! Wink

Then again, it must be really hard if your SO is taking a significantly long time to pop the question, despite having a ring.  Of course, time is very subjective.

Maybe on both sides of the ring fence – haha – “a watched pot never boils”…

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ukpussycat: What do you think is too long? My So has had it for 5 months now.

And I don’t like the comparisons to Christmas or waiting for a game to come out etc. In those situations you have a date you can count down to, whereas waiting for an engagement has no fixed date. But I definitely think it’s easier with a ring!

Post # 15
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Helper bee

@Mrs.SleepyKitty:  As I said time is very subjective.  It depends on the circumstances, but (and I hate to say it), 5 months does seem in the ‘long time’ category.  Has anything happened since he’s had the ring that might have affected him asking?

Edit: Was the ring a ‘one-off’ and he had to buy it then, or risk missing out?

And you’re right about Christmas being a specific date you can count down to, but if on 26 December, you knew something was going to happen the following Christmas (and you couldn’t ask or talk about it) that would still feel like an absolute eternity.  I think this is just about the sentiment behind it.

I’m glad for you (that the ring exists), but totally feel your frustration that nothing’s happened with it… again, yet!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ukpussycat: Nope, no offers or anything. We just has the money saved up and got it before we then spent money doing up the bathroom and buying furniture. I think he’s waiting for May, our 4th year anniversary.

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