(Closed) Waiting without a timeline…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Timelines can change, it’s not concrete. I’m hoping for you it becomes shorter over time. Unfortunately, just two weeks ago i asked him for a time line in the middle of an argument he yelled back saying he was planning on proposing within the next year. Now, argument free, i asked him a couple days ago and said he’s aiming for 2 years. obviously that sparked another argument so he bought me promise ring.. better than nothing but it’s just not the same.

Post # 4
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

How old are you guys? Nine years is a long time to be together unless you started dating when you were really young. I don’t know if I would stick around if we’d been together that long and there was no timeline. 

Post # 7
Member
29 posts
Newbee

Sometimes you just have to be forward.  9 years is a long time to not know what lies ahead.  If it really means a lot to you, you’re just gonna have to be straight with him.  Some girls may find that harsh, but hey, sometimes men just don’t get it.  They need to be reminded a million times before they get the picture 🙂

Post # 8
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I see. I understand that he wants to be vague about this, but you obviously need to know the realistic time frame. If I were you, I would tell him that you won’t wait forever. You don’t have to give him a time frame or an ultimatum, but perhaps you should start working on you and prepare for a life without him. Give yourself until a certain time (maybe 6 months after you graduate?) and if he doesn’t propose by then, you should probably move out. 

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