Post # 1
I was browsing around the web and came across this page. I read some of the waiting posts and saw how many of the same “issues” we are all having so I signed up! Yay! Anyway my SO and I went ring “looking” last night and he got signed up for a credit card at the jewelery store we went to. We have been together for four years, and I am beyond ready…and have been for quite a while! Today I told him that I was excited and happy to hopefully taking the next step. He responded with, “We are on the same page, I will make it happen.” I instantly got the butterflies. Only problem is I’m still sure he will not make it happen for a few months if not longer. I really don’t want to wait that long. Am I reading too much into his response? Should I try and push it along? What do I do?
Post # 3
@lhelm93: It sounds like it’s on his mind and he has a plan! I would give him six months from the time your discussions about getting engaged began. If nothing has happened by then, then I’d “check in” and ask for a more clarified timeline. My SO and I have been together for five years (tomorrow), I’m still waiting, and I’m pretty sure he’s had the ring since July. Or maybe even before! He says he has a plan, and I’ve been told by the end of October, but when I first started waiting and he started looking at rings (last December) I didn’t push him for specifics to give him time to do things on his own. Once it had been some time (around August) I just checked in, no pressuring, etc. etc.
Post # 4
Just wait it out. It sounds like he is making strides without any prodding!
Post # 5
Oh there has been prodding lol. But, I will wait about five months and see how it goes. Our anniversary is at the begining of December so hopefully then?!?!
Post # 6
I’d do one of two things:
1- Since you all are discussing the topic and it’s top of mind, I’d ask him for a timeline. Like, before the end of the year, or by February, or whatever. This way you have peace of mind at least until then.
2- Wait about a month or two and if nothing has happened by then, ask for a timeline.
When I was waiting I found that the timeline really allowed me to get my mind off of it and enjoy the wait a little more. It also allows him to feel like he is in control. If he sets the timeline, he’s more likely to stick to it. And you don’t have to bring it up again until that time comes (which hopefully it won’t come and go without a proposal).
Sounds like you’ll be engaged soon. Good luck!
Post # 7
@Reign14: Thank you for the advice! I never looked at it in the way that he will be more inclined to stick to the timeline if he makes it!
Post # 8
Awww that’s so sweet! … I know you’re getting anxious now b/c he put the stamp on how you both are feeling :-)… Now that he made moves (signing up for the card at the jewelry store) you KNOW he IS going to propose soon… Keep in mind soon for us is totally different soon for them LOL… I say you guys talked about it so stay excited and give him some time before pushing him :-)… Give it 6 months … then you can start to hint at it :-)… Good Luck and congrats!… you are officially a waiting bee ( get on that waiting list !)