(Closed) Waiting…and waiting…and waiting…almost done waiting?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3967 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@lhelm93:  It sounds like it’s on his mind and he has a plan! I would give him six months from the time your discussions about getting engaged began. If nothing has happened by then, then I’d “check in” and ask for a more clarified timeline. My SO and I have been together for five years (tomorrow), I’m still waiting, and I’m pretty sure he’s had the ring since July. Or maybe even before! He says he has a plan, and I’ve been told by the end of October, but when I first started waiting and he started looking at rings (last December) I didn’t push him for specifics to give him time to do things on his own. Once it had been some time (around August) I just checked in, no pressuring, etc. etc. 

Post # 4
2691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Just wait it out. It sounds like he is making strides without any prodding!

Post # 6
1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’d do one of two things:

1- Since you all are discussing the topic and it’s top of mind, I’d ask him for a timeline. Like, before the end of the year, or by February, or whatever. This way you have peace of mind at least until then. 

2- Wait about a month or two and if nothing has happened by then, ask for a timeline.

When I was waiting I found that the timeline really allowed me to get my mind off of it and enjoy the wait a little more. It also allows him to feel like he is in control. If he sets the timeline, he’s more likely to stick to it. And you don’t have to bring it up again until that time comes (which hopefully it won’t come and go without a proposal).

Sounds like you’ll be engaged soon. Good luck!



Post # 8
764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Awww that’s so sweet! … I know you’re getting anxious now b/c he put the stamp on how you both are feeling :-)… Now that he made moves (signing up for the card at the jewelry store) you KNOW he IS going to propose soon… Keep in mind soon for us is totally different soon for them LOL… I say you guys talked about it so stay excited and give him some time before pushing him :-)… Give it 6 months … then you can start to hint at it :-)… Good Luck and congrats!… you are officially a waiting bee ( get on that waiting list !)


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