waking someone up for sex???

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: which of the following applies to you?
    I wake up my SO and he/she likes it : (140 votes)
    29 %
    I wake up my SO and he/she doesn't like it : (7 votes)
    1 %
    My SO wakes me up and I like it : (117 votes)
    24 %
    My So wakes me up and I hate it : (58 votes)
    12 %
    I should wake up FI on saturday with a BJ : (143 votes)
    30 %
    I should not wake up FI on Saturday with a BJ : (17 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    817 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Glasgowbound:  OMG DH used to do this to me ALL THE TIME. And “waking me up” actually just consisted of nudging me with his naughty bits. I personally hated it, so I told him to stop. Now, if he started doing this once in a while again, I wouldn’t mind. Especially if we hadn’t seen each other for awhile/hadn’t had time to do it for awhile!

    Post # 4
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    9149 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Haha…I thought you were asking about waking someone up in the middle of the night based on the title of this.  If he tried to wake up in the middle of the night during the week I would threaten to kill him.  I am grumpy and not having decent sleep can sometimes trigger headaches for me so no I wouldn’t want to be woken up at that time. 

    9 or 10 am on a Saturday isn’t exactly super early for most people so I don’t see anything wrong with it at that time.

    So I wouldn’t mind…only on the weekends though and not at 3am or anything.

    Post # 5
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    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Occasionally my FI invites me to wake him up…and he loves it! I don’t think I would do it unprovoked, but there have been many occasions where he’ll ask me to. 

    I have told him he could wake me up a couple of times, just because the idea sounded good in theory….and it was a total bust. I’m sure it has to do with the fact that I hate being woken up. But seriously, I couldn’t wake up, I just wanted to go back to sleep, it was terrible! So, we don’t do that any more 🙂 

    Post # 6
    Member
    11760 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    In the morning is fine, but my ex used to wake me up randomly at like 2 am out of dead sleep and it was the most obnoxious thing ever.

    Post # 7
    Member
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I love waking my DH to make love! He usually is late for work when I do.Kiss

    Post # 8
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @QueenOfSerendip:   Haha yes! My DH would do the same thing all of the time.  I got so mad at him for it once that I pretended he startled me and I slammed my butt backwards into him.  He never did that agin…

    Post # 9
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    242 posts
    Helper bee

    Is it just me, or does anyone else feel notttt sexual as soon as they get up….my bladder is full, my breath stinks…its just not sexy for me

    Post # 10
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    1006 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Not worth it to me.. drowsiness is cuddly, not sexy. In my experience the amount of effort needed to make it good is inversely proportional to our combined energy level.  

    Post # 11
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    905 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If my FI woke me up to have sex, I’d probably bite off his dangly bits.  

    Sleep and I have never gotten along well, and I need every second I can grab with my cranky, sleep-deprived fingers.  FI knows this, and endeavors to never, ever wake me up without just cause (and sex ain’t it).  So, when we have sex, it’s usually before I go to bed, or when one of us randomly jumps the other during the day.  

    I woke my FI up for sex once, and lordy, he LOVED it.  I really should do it again, it’s just that sex is NOT the first thing on my mind when I wake up.  

    Post # 12
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    9918 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve done it a few times, and it doesn’t usually turn out well.  When my fiance wakes up, he has a routine.  And while waking someone up with a BJ is a nice idea, um…I just think of pee.  Gross.

    Post # 13
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    8993 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My husband does from time to time. I don’t mind at all. I’d do it to him except… I love sleep.

    Post # 14
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    5425 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My sleep is precious.  He knows not to disturb it. 

    Post # 15
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    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I did this accidentally once. I somehow got honry while sleeping, woke up part of the way, initiated sex and then woke up all the way. It was fantastic and my FI seemed to enjoy it too (granted, he was pretty confused at the time, but he was not complaining).

    If your FI asked you to wake him up for it I do not see the problem. Some people have different sleep routines and wouldn’t greet wakeup sex in a welcoming way, but he seems to want it, so you might as well give it a shot.

    Post # 16
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    3260 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Glasgowbound:  Regardless what anyone else does, your fiancé would clearly like you to wake him up with a blow job.  So, our opininos aren’t really important so much as your feelings on it.  So, if it sounds good to you, do it!

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