- L606
- 2 years ago
I hope you are doing OK since you got back in town!
I hope you are doing OK since you got back in town!
I hope you’re doing well. It’s hard to start over after so many years in a certain situation. But it’s much better than remaining there for another 2 or 5 or 10+ years.
She hasn’t posted, so I’m assuming she’s staying with him and doesn’t want to come back to tell anyone.
I hate posters who ask for help and ghost their own post!
Hi OP – I really hope you come back and update us all. I really hope you didn’t cave and stay with this guy.
I posted on your previous thread 2 years ago:
It definitely wasn’t this hard for me/us. But I have a very low tolerance for all that drama/tears/back and forth stuff he pulled on you. I would have been out when he wasn’t sure at year 3/4. And I wouldn’t have been lured back with promises.
But you are where you are…. if you can summon the strength, I think you should leave. But I highly doubt you will.
I would never have wanted to be engaged to someone I wasn’t SURE was thrilled to be engaged to me. My fiance is giddy and excited to be engaged to me – do you think your SO could ever feel that way? Don’t you think you deserve to have your fiance feel that way about you?
When I posted that, my husband and I weren’t even engaged. We had been together a year and a half. Since then, he proposed, we got married and went on our honeymoon, and we got 2 dogs. We are now selling our condo and buying a house, going to start TTC in 2 months.
And you… have been waiting in agony for this asshole to propose. You are in THE EXACT SAME PLACE 2 years later.
Doesn’t that bother you? Look. If it’s fear of starting over, don’t let that make your decisions for you. On my 30th birthday, I was rock bottom. Single, terrible job, terrible finances, sure I was a failure at life and no one would ever want me. 2 days before my 31st birthday, I met DH, and I’ve been soaring ever since. In just a few years your entire life can change and turn entirely around.
Or. You can stagnate and drift in miserable circles with one promise-breaking asshole and get no closer to your goal of marriage and children.
I reall yhope your found the strength to follow through with your plan. The only way I can see it wokring, though, is if you go No Contact with this guy. His selfish, weak weasling knows no bounds.