(Closed) Walk down the aisle without Dad

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
Member
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Gosh there are so many of us bees who will be without the men who loved us first in our lives.  I know I can’t even think about it without tearing up and even though its a crappy reason to have a bond, we all have a bond.  Anyone thought about father daughter dance?  I don’t have any siblings.. still trying to get that one figured out.

Post # 18
Bee
11803 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

My dad died in 2008, shortly after the Dude and I got engaged.  I chose to walk by myself because in my eyes, no one could replace my dad.  I have a post coming up very soon that shows my walk down the aisle alone.  Good luck in whatever you decide–I’m very sorry for your loss.

Post # 19
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283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My dad kicked me out when I was 14, and we didn’t speak for a long time.  We’re on better terms now, but I’ve made the decision to walk alone.  I don’t feel like it will be scary at all because I know everyone there will be there watching because they love me.

Post # 20
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am just beginning to understand the emotional part of planning your wedding and what to do when you’ve lost a parent.  Having lost my father 14 years ago and my mom 5 years ago I am expecting it to be a very emotional day. I got engaged in December and I am in the beginning stages of wedding planning.   Thankfully I have two brothers that I plan on asking to escort me down the aisle.  If I didn’t have someone close to me I would probably do the walk alone. 

Post # 21
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Jmkassak, you can totally steal my brother/sister dance idea!  We’re going to dance to “You’ve got a friend in me” from the movie Toy Story.  It’s not too mushy and the lyrics are really cute!

Post # 22
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Wannabee

I have sort of the same issue.. I never knew my real dad… and i was adopted… and i have 2 mothers and no brothers… I actually have no real father figures in mylife.. so idk what to do…

Post # 23
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1939 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@jmkassak: What if instead of having your brother or anyone say who gives this woman to marry this man (or whatever it is) you could have him walk up to your man and say something like “I give my sister unto you into marriage” and then he could walk up to his spot.  Just a thought and not the best words but instead of having a question he could just state it.  Maybe even state that your family gives you or however you feel comfortable. 

My son is walking me down the aisle but when asked who gives me.  My mom dad and son are all going to be standing and say “We Do” 

Post # 24
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6350 posts
Bee Keeper

My fiancee and I are considering meeting halfway. When I start walking towards the alter, he starts walking towards me. We meet in the middle and walk up together. I have no idea if this will work or seem really tacky but like many of you I do not have a father an uncle or even a brother to walk me down the aisle.

Post # 25
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My father passed away in 2008.  I could never find anyone to replace him, but my brother (who is 8 years older than me) is walking me down the aisle.  Call me old fashioned, but I wanted someone to “give me away” and there is no one like my Big Brother.  He has taken care of me since I was a baby, and now that I am grown, we are the best of friends.  I will be sad that my Daddy isn’t there to give me away, but proud of the man who is walking me down the aisle.

Post # 26
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776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁 My dad also passed away a few years ago.  I had my brother walk me down the aisle because I knew it meant a lot to him and to my mom.  I really wouldnt have minded going it alone though.  I like the suggestion of another poster above to suggested your Maid/Matron of Honor or BMs. Good luck with your decision!

Post # 27
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My father passed away last month.  I’m getting married next August, I still need to talk this over with the Fiance, but I think we’ll do this:  Him walk in with his guys/stand at the front, my girls walk in, I walk in & the Fiance walks up the isle like half way to meet me, then we go down the rest of the way together.  I don’t want to walk in all the way with the Fiance…I kind of need a all eyes on me moment  🙂

Post # 28
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446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I am really sorry to all the bees that have posted up here, hugs to you.:(. My dad passed when I was 7..and I never really gave it much thought that he wouldn’t be there until I got engaged. Then I was trying on a dress and the veil tradition was being explained..that the father lifts the veil to present her to her husband. I guess that’s the original tradition? I don’t know. I normally don’t cry in groups of people..but there I was in a pretty dress, pretty veil and I just started to break in front of everyone..people thought initially that it was cause I found my dream dress..but it’s because there I was in my dress and my dad won’t see me on my day. It’s very sad:(. I don’t like all eyes on me..so my FH and I will probably walk out together..I thought about asking a pastor I am close with..but in the end..I think I would just want my man and maybe a photo of my dad in a little purse or something. I like the idea of shoe charms..but that would probably make me just too sad..it’s kinda sad to talk about this so:(. I am really sorry for anyone’s losses and again lots of hugs to you today and on your wedding day.

Post # 29
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405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My father passed away two years ago and I made the decision to walk the aisle alone. Like you, I couldn’t imagine someone else walking me down the aisle. I did tell my husband that if it looked like I was having a particularly difficult time (emotionally) making it down the aisle that he was to come and get me and we would walk together. I did wrap the stems of my bouquet with a necklace and ring my father wore every day…so I did have him with me.

So the big moment came, I took a deep breath, told my father I loved him and knew he was with me…and I walked down that aisle. It wasn’t as difficult as I thought it would be…the second I saw all my friends and family members there smiling I kind of went to another place. I was surrounded by so much love and it was kind of an out of body experience. And then when I say my hubby waiting for me…I knew it would be ok.

I was also realllly focused on not tripping. I had to walk up a slight hill in 3.5″ heels…so in order to keep my balance I felt like I had to lift them hem of my dress a bit. LOL!

The middle photo is from our photographers http://www.hinkleyphoto.com and the other two are from guests.

 

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