(Closed) Walk down the asle

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@samri8510: Do what is in your heart. If your bio dad’s side is being that bitter or trying to blackmail you, they’re clearly not there for you. My theory is that just because you are a parent, you are not entitled to particular ‘traditions’ when you haven’t done the traditional thing in being present in your child’s life. It’s your wedding, enjoy it however and with whomever you want, and the others can make up their own minds as adults.

Post # 4
Member
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@indibee:  I completely agree.

OP, as difficult as it is- I think it’s more important to do what is meaningful to you, rather than trying to please others.

Post # 5
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967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

 

@samri8510:  Was your bio dad’s family in your life?   I find it so bizarre that someone who was not in your life would want to take it away from the person who raised you.

I think your bio dad’s family needs to butt out, and if they were in your life while he wasn’t, they should wake up and realize what a dead beat dad is….

anyone can be a father…it takes someone special to be a dad….and your uncle is that someone special…

Post # 7
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

So let me get this straight your father kidnaps you, rightfully goes to jail for his crime and your grandparents think he was robbed, it seems they like to make excuses for his bad behavior. Your father is a stranger who is lucky that you are even on speaking terms with him.

Don’t let them blackmail and manipulate you. Your father should be grateful that after your mother died and he was in prison someone step up to raise you and your brother. I hope he(your brother) is on your side, and you both take a united stance. Tell your grandparents the truth you don’t know him well enough or feel comfortable having him walk you down the aisle.

Tell your grandparents, and his family, and speak to him directly also. Let them know that you aren’t going to bullied and manipulated into making them happy on your wedding day. Take a Stand! Two things may happen,

The first they call your bluff and really do what they threaten, in which case I say good riddance you don’t need that negative energy in your life or wedding, or

The second, they realize you are a grown adult woman with backbone who won’t be coerced and bullied, and they gain some much need respect for you.

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