Post # 32
@Ashley8200blue: Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your choice to walk away. There is no way I would settle for playing house with a man who didn’t love or respect me enough to marry me. If your ex was “blindsided” its because he expected you to be content with whatever he was giving you and not considering your wants and needs.
Your ex will either step up or he won’t. This is your life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having self respect and standards.
You did the right thing and that takes courage. Good for you. Stay strong.
Post # 33
Good for you for sticking to what you believe. I can only imagine how hard it must be. You will find someone who will do anything to make you his wife and mother of his children. Stay strong.
Post # 34
I’m so sorry to hear that this happend to you but I think that you did the right thing, it doesn’t sound like he was on the same page as you at all. And as another poster said even when faced with you walking out he still could not even give you a time frame. But dont worry you’re still in your early 30s so you have plenty of time.
Post # 35
@Ashley8200blue: I am in tears reading this, I hurt so much for you. You are a strong woman and I am so proud of you for standing up for what you believe in. I am almost 30 and am currently waiting. I believe in marriage before children as well.
Things will work out. God has a plan for us, and we need to trust in that rather than question why. Hard, tearful decisions I have made earlier in life, have led to some amazing outcomes. Have faith.
Post # 36
@Zhabeego: If your ex was “blindsided” its because he expected you to be content with whatever he was giving you and not considering your wants and needs.
+1 to this comment. I am so, so sorry for the pain you’re feeling right now, but I agree that you did the right thing (and huge props to you for having the courage and strength to go through with something you knew would be painful. That is so hard.)
You communicated to him that marriage is necessary for you. If he can’t even give you a definite ‘yes I want to marry you’ (rather than just ‘of course I see us together…’) or a timeline for proposing, then he is not caring for your needs in a way someone who truly loves you should. There is a man out there who will do anything to keep you in his life, and your ex was not that guy.