(Closed) walking down the aisle

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Member
852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m walking solo.

My father has passed away, leaving only my mother and my sister left in my immediate family, and the way I see, it was nobody’s privilege but his. My mom is not happy about this and wants me to pick someone, but at the same time, I also kinda enjoy the thought of all eyes on me.

Post # 4
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3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I understand, I don’t feel right walking down with my father either.  Right now I’m trying to decide if I should walk down alone or have my Fiance walk down with me.  My concerns with walking down alone are that I’m not having a DOC and I’m afraid of those few moments where I’m all by myself right before I walk down the aisle.  Also if I have my Fiance walk in with me I think it would “make more sense” as to why my father is sitting right there but not walking me down the aisle. 

The downside of that plan is that we won’t get to experience the groom seeing the bride walk down the aisle, which I personally don’t care about but I think it might mean more to Fiance.  

The compromise – have Fiance meet me halfway.  

Those are just the thoughts I’m tossing around about my situation, best of luck to you whatever you decide!

Post # 5
Member
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I walked with both my mom and dad..it was nice

Post # 6
Member
2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Missed this thread…I’ll be keeping an eye on it myself as I’m in a similar dilemma. Meeting the Fiance halfway is a nice compromise to just walking alone.

Post # 8
Member
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I wanted to walk with my mom and dad.. but i knew that would hurt my stepdads feelings, and he has been around for a long time!! So I decided on walking down with my dad and stepdad, and I am giving my mom a flower or something during the ceremony.

Post # 9
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3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@EleanorRigby: I think if you make it more about “I’m an independent person I don’t feel like anyone needs to give me away” instead of about your relationship with your parents you will be a lot less likely to hurt feelings.  And don’t feel bad!  If it doesn’t feel right to you, don’t do it.

Post # 10
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1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Natalieh86: This is great advice. OP, I’m struggling with the same thing for slightly different reasons–my parents are divorced and don’t get along at ALL. Do what feels right to you.

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