- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I have the same issue…my dad and i arent very close, but are okay and he might be a little put off when I tell him, but i really dont feel comfortable being given away by my parents or being given to my fi. As of now, my plan is for the grooms parents and then my parents to walk up the aisle as a couple to begin the processional – that way they still have the honor of walking up the aisle & being included in the processional/ceremony. Then the wedding party will walk up the aisle in couples and my fi & I will walk together (we’ve been together for 5 years so entering as a couple and leaving as a couple just makes more sense). Plus this has the added benefit of being able to help keep eachother from being nervous (we plan to see eachother and take some pics before ceremony anyway).
Basically, i plan to start this conversation with my dad by asking if he has preferences for the father/daughter dance (which i hope to do at the same time as mother/groom dance) and I’m thinking we may just ask our parents to do toasts at the reception (definitely dont want a toast from the best man!) – that way the conversation starts with an area where he can make some decisions and then explain how i would like the ceremony to be and it should be clear that way that it is not just a slight towards him (we’ve had some issues in the past).