Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2015 - Calvary Chapel in Niagara Falls, ON
Hi there! I’m new to weddingbee, and this is my first post! Yay!
Anyways, I’m getting married in July and I just have a couple last things to figure out.. We had a very short engagement, (only since April) and one of the things that has been weighing heavily on me is who will walk me down the aisle..
My father passed away very suddenly and unexpectedly just last October. I can’t even begin to think of anyone I would want to have walk me down the aisle.. People have suggested my younger brother, my grandpa, or an uncle, or even my mom. I feel like if I can’t have my dad do it, then I would rather just walk alone. I plan to have a small charm with his picture on it on the stem of my bouquet, so it will kind of feel like he is there with me.
What do other bees think of this? Will it seem weird to the guests?
Thanks for any responses!
Post # 2
You can walk alone, with your mother or with you almost husband. It isn’t not weird. There are many options. Its a day to celebrate the two of you. Do as you wish!
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s weird at all or that people will think it’s weird.
I’ve lost both of my parents, I’m an only child and my grandpa died the day after I got engaged. I’m walking down by myself, I mean, who else is there to do it? lol
Post # 4
It is not uncommon for a woman to walk alone down the aisle even if her father is still alive and they have a good relationship. A lot of women just don’t agree that they can be “given away” by anyone.
Post # 5
I walked alone because I want to. I got a little nervous about it but it’s the only thing I’ve known I wanted since I was little. Do what feels right to you, trust your gut!
Post # 6
I walked alone and I don’t think that anyone found it strange. My sister also walked down the aisle alone at her recent wedding.
Post # 7
I walked alone, and no one thought it was strange at all. Why does a woman NEED someone to walk her down the aisle?
Post # 8
My son is walking me down the aisle…he’s 8
we thought it would be a lovely way to include him in the ceremony. I say do whatever makes you happy.
Post # 9
My dad died when i was 5. I had a photo charm of him on my bouquet, and my mom and my brother both walked me down the aisle. I also had a brother sister dance. The song was ” you’ve got a friend in me, ” by Randy Newman.
Post # 10
So sorry for your loss. I think it’s so sweet that you’re honoring your Dad with a charm on your bouquet. You said it best yourself, “If I can’t have my dad do it, then I would rather just walk alone.” He will be with you in spirit. It’s not weird at all for you to walk by yourself.
Post # 11
You won’t really be alone – you will feel him walking with you. HUGS!
Post # 12
I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad passed away very suddenly last November, so I am pretty much in the same boat as you are. I plan on walking alone. Everyone that I have spoken to thinks that it is fine, and I feel good about it. No one can replace my dad, and I don’t feel like I could give the honor of “giving me away” to anyone else.
Bottom line, it’s your wedding, so do what makes you happy and comfortable!
Post # 13
I plan on walking alone. Another option (if you’re both interested) is for you and your Fiance to walk in together, that’s what my parents did.
Post # 14
I prefer a lone bride. And there is certainly nothing weird about it. If that’s what you want then that’s what you should do. Don’t fake it with an escort you dont feel genuine about, be true to what you feel.
Post # 15
So sorry for your loss! I don’t think it’ll be weird at all. I’m walking alone. Or with my 5 year old, haven’t made up my mind. But I think I’m going to walk alone. My mom was like… WHAT?!?! when she heard I was gonna do it alone but I guess she’s from more old fashioned? Lol it’s definitely an old tradition but I don’t think there’s anything wrong or weird with you walking alone!