Post # 1
My father died when I was very young, and my mother remarried when I was 10, and while I like her husband, he never was a father figure to me. I have an older sister and she didn’t do a traditional wedding so I can’t steal her idea of how to handle this! I have older brothers too but since there are several I couldn’t pick just one. I’m cutting out the father-daughter dance all together because it gave me a headache! I could have my step-dad walk me, but that doesn’t feel right. I could have my mom do it, but that makes her look like a single mother, which I feel like might hurt my step-dad or look odd. So I’m thinking of walking down the aisle alone with my bridesmaids first then my mom and step-dad together and then me alone. I have 2 concerns: 1) Will it hurt my mom’s feelings? 2) *most importantly* I feel like I might be super nervous at the back of the chapel waiting to walk down the aisle with no one there to help calm me down!!!! I can’t imagine what it’s like waiting to walk down the aisle for your wedding, but I feel like I’ll be freaking out a bit… is it a bad idea to think of being alone?
Post # 3
Think how stunning you will look walking down the aisle alone! Everyone’s eyes will be on you and you alone. It will be a moment for you to collect your thoughts and be alone with yourself before you enter into the biggest committment of your life. I think the idea of you having a moment by yourself is kind of beautiful. But ultimately you will know what is the right thing to do.
Post # 4
Have you asked your mom about it? I find something beautiful about a bride coming down alone, alot of them do now, so it is not uncommon. You could always ask a friend or a relative to stay in the back with you and seat themselves quietly after you are down the aisle. I did that with my DHs neice. I fixed her dress and held her hand until right before the doors opened, she looked so beautiful and was honored to be asked.
Post # 5
Well since you are not the totally traditional woman, don’t do tradition. Here are a few thoughts…
- Depending on how many brothers you have, this may get a little hard. But have two brothers stand with you in the back, one for each arm. They walk you half way down the aisle, then they present you to your next brother(s). You are never alone this way.
- Be bold you are the bride, you are a beautiful woman. So walk down the aisle alone and be proud of your maturity and remember your prince is waiting for you at the alter.
- Do you have an Uncle that would be honored to give you away?
- Have your Maid/Matron of Honor walk with you down the aisle.
Post # 6
I didn’t want to be walked down the aisle or given away etc., so this was our processional order:
Darling Husband & groomsmen took their places at the front
Me – I walked halfway down the aisle, Darling Husband came and met me there, and we walked the rest of the way together.
Post # 7
I walked myself down the aisle too. I was the most freaked out about that moment myself, but ultimately, I was ok. The stroll goes by so fast that once it’s over with, you wonder what the big deal was all about.
It helped me to keep my eye right on my Fiance, and to think how happy I would be when I got to be his wife in only a few moments.
I toiled over my mother and my step father too. I had my step father walk my mom down the aisle, because there was no one else to walk her down. That seemed to work out fine; it included the step father (who got with my mother when I was about 17, so he didn’t feel like a “dad” to me either) in the process, and it got my mother to the ultimate destination of the front of the aisle.
Don’t stress out too much, OP. It’ll be ok. And at the end of it, you’ll be as happy as a clam because you’ve gotten to marry your best friend.
Post # 8
I am walking myself down the aisle….my parents are not involved in my life at all, and while I could have my grandfather walk me down the aisle, I really feel like it is making more of a positive statement for me to walk alone since I brought myself to this point 🙂 If you aren’t comfortable with any of your other choices, I say embrace it!
Post # 9
I really like @RevMic:‘s idea. That would be unique and memorable.
Post # 10
For me, walking down the aisle alone was wonderful. The moment when I was waiting for my music to start after all the bridesmaids had gone was a precious moment. I felt serene and I had no nerves. I spent those moments thinking about what the ceremony means to me and what being married to my husband means to me, about all my family and dear friends who have gathered to watch us get married, about how it has FINALLY happened! I am here! I am beautiful, everything is beautiful, now I can just RELAX and get married! It was wonderful, one of the best decisions I made.
Post # 11
You can do it! I still have both my parents and they are still very much in love and married.
However, at 31 I feel that I want to walk alone, not lean on or be given away by my daddy.
I am doing a processional like yours OP, where my parents will walk first and I will walk after.
My mom loves the idea, and also reassured me how easy it is to walk alone when the man you love is at the end of the aisle (her father died when she was 19, she walked alone).
Post # 12
I am walking down by my self. My dad died when i was 18 and my mom died when i was 11 so i think walking down the isle is the best thing for me. Sure i have my gpa and an uncle and a brother. but i feel like that moment is a father daughter moment and with him not here to share it with me i am going to just share it myself.
I think walking down the isle alone will give me some space and time to gather all my thoughts and remember why i am marrying that handsome man at the end of the isle. (on the other hand i could just cry all the way down and forget to think 😉 )
Post # 13
I’m stoked about walking down the aisle alone! It will probably be the only opportunity to feel as if I’m on a runway!!! LMAO!! Seriously, think about it…..Cameras going off, people oohing and aahing, I will look fabulous and my love will be at the end waiting for me with I know the biggest cheesiest Cheshire cat grin on his face. I can’t wait!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 14
I’m making the choice to walk alone… My father is around, but he hasn’t really been much of a dad so I don’t feel he has any right to give me away. I love my mum, but my dad would be offended if I just got her to walk me down. The aisle is tiny and the church has a side entrance, so having them both walk me would be massive overkill… So I’m doing it alone!
I’m a little nervous… But my Maid/Matron of Honor is the most amazing person ever and I know she’ll be right there next to me while I’m waiting, and she’ll only be a few steps in front of me as I walk towards the man of my dreams!