I don’t have a relationship with my father, which is a complicated story into itself. Though he would like to be a part of my life, he is not, and he will not be invited or welcome at my wedding.
My mom, who I am incredibly close with, has her heart set on walking me down the aisle – especially since I escorted her down the aisle at her second wedding ten years ago.
I’m of two minds – I would love to be able to honor my mom in such a nice way, but I like the idea of walking myself down the aisle – or having my fiance and I each enter from different locations, walk to meet each other, and enter together. It’s something I’m struggling with because my mom wants to walk me down the aisle so much.
I think you should do whatever you want. I’m a wedding officiant, and I’ve seen brides escorted by parents, moms, dads, brothers, dogs, grooms, uncles, grandparents and by themselves. Whatever they choose ALWAYS works for their ceremony, and always reflects who they are. Your wedding officiant can draw who ever does or does not walk you down the aisle into the intro of the ceremony, as a bit of explanation, to assuage nervous relatives or those family members who think you are bucking tradition.
But I can say, from personal experience, that trying to patch up a relationship that has fallen apart JUST so you can have someone walk you down the aisle – isn’t going to be an accurate or happy memory for you – I mean, it could, but there’s also the chance for a lot of messiness. Of course, you all know yourselves better than anyone else – talk to your fiance, friends, and people who know you the best – for me, I would NEVER try to bridge the gap between my father and I JUST to have him at my wedding – but that’s something that I’ve gotten over and realized many, many years ago.