(Closed) Walking down the aisle ..Solo..Independent..By Myself

posted 6 years ago in May 2012
  • poll: Are you walking without your father that is still living?
    Yes : (31 votes)
    39 %
    No : (26 votes)
    33 %
    Thinking about it : (12 votes)
    15 %
    I am walking alone but because my father is no longer on earth with us : (5 votes)
    6 %
    Other--Please comment : (6 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I will be walking alone. My father died when I was four and my mom and I have a very difficult relationship. I have thought about my wedding day my entire life and who would walk me down the aisle but I can’t think of any one I would want to give me away, no one is deserving of that role. So I decided to walk alone. I am considering having my fiance meet me half way and walk me down the rest of the way, signifying that I lived my life on my own and now we are joining and he is taking my hand.

    Good luck, I am sorry for all the trouble your going through 🙁 hugs!

    Post # 4
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My father is a huge part of my life – he and my mother are a great example of a good marraige and I wouldn’t have it any other way than walked down on his arm.

    My sister-in-law walked herself most of the way.  Her father and mother split and he has his own family now and not much to do with her, though he came to the wedding and is a decent guy.  Her stepfather footed the bill for some of the wedding and raised her for part of her life, but is a jerk (her mother and he have since split), so she didn’t feel he owned her enough to give her away either.

    My brother (her husband), went and met her at the back row of chairs (it was outdoors, she walked down the dock alone) and they walked to the altar together.  It was perfect for them. 

    Post # 5
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    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have no relationship with my father. He will not even be at the wedding.

    I am walking with my brother but would have had no problem walking by myself if my brother wasn’t here.

    You can do it!  

    Post # 6
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My dad had custody of me, but our relationship was always very strained and after my stepmother, all of my trouble-making siblings, and his job there was almost no attention left for. I talk to him maybe once or twice a year now, if that. 

    He did walk me down the aisle when I got married, because I felt guilty at denying him the chance to walk his only daughter down the aisle. But I raised myself, and I really wish I had walked alone. It’s a not-small regret I have. 

    Post # 7
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    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I hear you on that one…My dad and I haven’t gotten along for a LONG time…He has said some nasty and inappropriate things to me that I just can’t ever forgive, even though he thinks since he’s said sorry that should fix things.  I have three half siblings all of them much younger than I am who never understood why I don’t talk with my father very often…Until they got to be older and really understood what he was all about.  Now none of them talk to him.  My two sisters are 21 and 19, and my brother is 18.  So, they all told me I’d better not be letting him walk me down the aisle…it’s a privilege not a right. So no, he won’t be walking me down.

    My mom wants to do it, but I know that will just cause drama with my father so that’s out too.  Arrrgh….I’m not entirely sure how I’ll handle the situation when the time comes (and I think it’s coming sooner than later!)

    Post # 8
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I had a courthouse ceremony, but, if I had a traditional ceremony, I would not have had my father or stepfather walk me down the aisle. My grandfather may have, but, if not, I would have walked alone. I did not have someone I considered a real “father figure” growing up, so I don’t really understand the sentiment or tradition. Personally, I strongly dislike the idea of being “given away”. 

    Post # 9
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My sister walked herself!  I walked with Darling Husband because it was just us.  🙂

    Post # 10
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    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    There is nothing wrong with walking down the aise by yourself.  To me, it’s really just walking.

    I’ve been married twice.  The first time my dad walked me down the aisle.  (We get along fine.)  It really wasn’t a big deal to me.  It was just tradition.  This time (the 2nd wedding) we were married at home.  I walked down the stairs and through my living room by myself.  Dad was standing in the crowd with everyone else.  It was just walking to me.  I guess I’m just not sentimental enough to see how it matters.

    My ex Mother-In-Law married after I married her son.  She couldn’t figure out which of her three brothers she should ask to walk her down the aisle without hurting the other brothers’ feelings.  I suggested she have her only child (my then husband) walk her down the aisle.  Duh!  My point with all this is… it’s just a walk.  Anyone who means something to you can walk with you.  It doesn’t have to be your biological dad.  

    Post # 12
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    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m walking down by myself and I have a good relationship with my dad. I’m just not a fan of the tradition.

    Post # 13
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    2086 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

    I’m not a huge fan of the tradition myself, but I have to admit that I’m scared of what people will say/think if I walk alone. It’s almost as if you are telling guests (co-workers, people you don’t know on the other side of the family) about a family dynamic that most people don’t usually share.

    Does that make sense?

    Post # 14
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    886 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I walked down with my entire family. My dad had my arm, my mom carried the train, and my brother escorted my mother behind me.

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