Post # 1
My Fiance and I are planning to walk down the aisle together, rather than to have anyone give me away or to have him simply waiting for me. We’ll be having a Catholic Mass for our wedding ceremony, so the priest and altar servers will have to process in, as well as the bridesmaids, groomsmen, and our parents. I don’t know what order we’ll walk down in, though!
Has anyone had any experience, either at your own wedding or seeing someone else’s, with the bride and groom walking in together? Did it work out well? In what order did everyone come in? Any thoughts/ advice?
Post # 3
I’ve never seen it but I like it.
It’s kind of crazy how much the bride and groom are separated before they make the biggest comitment of their lives – getting ready different places, not seeing each other before, getting pulled away to visit with guests at the rec. I think it would be nice to have some moments together that are private. I think if it won’t cause an issue with your parents then it’s fine.
Post # 4
We are doing this! We also do not have a bridal party, so we are weaving the family together prior to us walking in (my mom, then his dad, then my dad/stepmom, then his sister, then my brother, then the flower girl/ringbearer, then us).
Post # 5
We didn’t have a bridal party but we had the officiant walk down with the ring bearer (father and son), then Darling Husband walked out one side with his mom and I walked out the other with my dad. We met and Mother-In-Law went to her seat followed by my dad and then Darling Husband and I walked down together.
Post # 6
Thanks, everyone! I’m glad to see we’re not the only ones doing this! My Fiance is VERY excited about it- he was actually bigger on the idea than I was.
Post # 7
Mrs. Pug did this for her ceremony, I believe. Actually, in very orthodix catholic weddings, bride & groom are suppose to enter together last in the procession. They’re suppose to come last because they’re their own ministers of the sacrament of matrinomy. Nobody is suppose to be property to be given away either. In the tradition, the procession goes in the order of the least important people to the most important ppl, so the minister of the sacrament always comes last in the procession. For wedding nowadays though, processional order can probably be flexible.
Post # 8
I’ve seen this a few times but never in a church wedding. I think it’s awesome! And I think you should come in last.
Post # 9
Thanks pren79! I had actually heard about that being an older Catholic wedding tradition before, but never heard too many details on the actual logistics of it (in fact, most of what I heard was about girls being sad their priest suggested this, because they wanted the “traditional” dad-walking-the-bride-in procession). We both really love the idea that nobody is giving anyone away (I’m still a part of my family!), and that we’re coming in as equals, taking these steps together. It also alleviates some family tension (I have a dad and a step-dad, so there will be no bad blood when one gets to walk me and the other does not).
I will definitely check out Mrs. Pug’s posts for some inspiration!!
Post # 10
This is something I have thought a lot about, too.
What we’re planning to do is to have me enter alone, and the Mr. come halfway up the aisle to meet me, then walk the rest of the way together.
Post # 11
There’s another thread about this, and I just added a bunch of photos to it, which I hope will help any future brides considering doing this 🙂 We had an Episcopal service. The men lined up on top of a flight of stairs, and the ladies came out, one at a time, and the men walked them down. I came up with this idea after Darling Husband really wanted me to come down the stairs as my grand entrance, but my dad passed away and I was going to come down myself, so I was afraid of going ass over teakettle by myself.
Post # 11
This is a second marriage for the both of us…and yes I was thinking about walking down together….but then I was thinking of a way all three of my grown sons can walk down with me
Post # 12
This will be a second wedding for us. He’s a widow, and I’m divorced with an annullment. I plan on walking alone half way, at which point he will meet me, and we will walk the rest of the way together. He really wanted the experience of watching me walk down the aisle towards him, our priest wants us to walk together the whole way. I feel like I’m too old to have my daddy “give me away”. This was a nice compromise.