Post # 1
I’m struggling with the whole walking down the aisle situation. My dad passed away when I was twelve so he won’t be able to walk with me. My mom has some mobility issues so it’s really better for her to be seated beforehand. When I was growing up I always pictured myself walking down the aisle by myself like Maria in the Sound of Music, but then this voice in the back of my head keeps saying that I should have someone to walk with me. My mom had a similar situation when she got married to my dad and she had her cousin walk with her and said it was nice to have somebody to lean on, physically. I have an older cousin (uncle-age) who I would like to walk me, but he has three daughters of his own, and one of them just got married last year and I feel like it would be awkward.
I would ask one of my close male friends, but they’ve already agreed to be my bridesmen and I feel like that’s a better fit for them anyway. I just keep going back and forth on whether I want to walk alone or with somebody.
Post # 3
Is it safe to assume you do not have any siblings? Because they can walk you down the aisle as well. It may be a good idea to ask you mother for her input. She may already have someone in mind but doesn’t want to intrude too much in your wedding planning.
Post # 4
My mom wants me to walk down the aisle with my cousin, the way she did. And, nope, no siblings.
Post # 5
I bet your cousin would think of it as an honor. I don’t think it’s awkward at all. It was really nice to have someone to grab when everyone turned to stare at me lol. Also you’re in the back by yourself while everyone is walking up the aisle, it’s nice to not be alone.
Post # 6
If you feel so close to your cousin that you would want him to walk you down the aisle, you should go ahead and ask. He would be honored, I’m sure. But, as a bride who walked alone down the aisle, I have to say that walking alone was great and I’m glad I did.
Post # 7
I’ve seen it done before where the bride walked halfway down the aisle, and then the groom met her in the middle and walked her the rest of the way up to the altar. I thought it was very symbolic and beautiful 🙂
Post # 8
DH and I walked down the aisle together.
Post # 9
both my father and my FI’s father have passed away. mine 3 years ago and my FI’s 15 years ago. my mother will be walking me down the ailse. my fiance’s mother had a stroke and uses a walker for the very limited walking she does. when she learned that we were engaged the first thing she said was she was going to have to practice her walking. my Fiance will be with her down the ailse and there will be a chair waiting for her at the end.
my brother is one of my bride’s attendant, he has a disability and uses a wheelchair for long distances, though he can walk short distances with the help of a cane. he is not sure yet if he is going to walk or roll down the ailse. but during the ceremony, he will be sitting in his wheelchair but standing for me.
if walking down yourself is what you always pictured, then by all means do it. but if you do want your mom to walk you down, there are other ways then walking down a longer ailse.
do a wedding in the round, so there is a very short ailse.
have your mom sit in the back row, then you can walk down to the front row.
just a few ideas.
Post # 10
@HisIrishPrincess: Yeah, those are my mom’s reasons for wanting me to walk with him, so I can have someone to grab.
Can I ask if it was hard to walk by yourself? Like I said, that’s what I’m leaning toward but I don’t want to get too nervous or anything.
I’ve heard of that idea, but I guess I just really want the photos of him up there with his groomsmen waiting for me.
We’re not seeing each other before the ceremony, so I wouldn’t be able to walk the whole way with him.
Thank you. My mom and I haven’t even talked about her walking me. I think she’s just not into the idea. She’s already talked about which one of the groomsmen is going to seat her and I think she just wants to be there and watching.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
I really wanted to walk myself down the aisle just me and my beauiful dress in all its glory, I thought the photos would look great. Seeing as my father was boycotting the wedding I thought awesome. No one squashing my dress, lol!! When I told my mum she had a mini fit and said I had to be represented so apparently my uncle who is also my godfather has said there is no way im walking down the aisle by myself and there are talks between him and my brothers.
Do you have a godfather? I dont want my bros to do it cos theyre not father figures to me and it feels weird. I think you are strong enough to do it yourself however if you feel close to you cousin in that way id do that
Post # 12
@leecy87: I have a godfather, but he’s not a significant person in my life. I was getting baptized and needed a male sponsor so I picked him. Last I heard he was living in Bulgaria as a missionary.
I feel I should also mention that I have no grandfathers and I’m not particularly close to my uncles.
Post # 13
@luluvohn: no, it wasn’t hard at all. My eyes locked with my husband’s and it was like no one else was there. The only other things I remember are telling myself to smile and not to walk too fast. Like I said, it was great and I’m glad I did it 🙂
Post # 14
@peasantsong: You look beautiful and happy. That is a big help, thank you!
Post # 15
you could get your mom a wheelchair or a cane etc so she could give you away p.s sorry your dad can’t be with you
Post # 16
@futureweddingplanner2002: Thank you. My mom is very against looking weak, so she wouldn’t want either of those. I think I’m more strongly leaning toward walking myself.