(Closed) Walking into marriage with huge career change on horizon

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

But are you okay with this change? Did he give you any say in it whatsoever? Is it not something he can do in addition to his current IT job?

I know some guys are the dreamer types, they just want to do something they love…and that’s wonderful, but he has a soon-to-be wife to consider.

If he’s made up his mind, then that’s that. making on 50K a year sure isn’t hard…but it is about living within your means. I’ve been making 50-60k my entire life…i can’t say I want for much at all. I have a nice house, brand new car (honda though, no lexus or BMW’s here) plenty of money for eating out once or twice a week and for vacation once a year. It’s all about how you two manage money.

If you are both known to be a little spendy, I’d think twice about this career change. 


Post # 4
4125 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I can understand why this must be hard, it’s much more difficult going backwards financially whatever the reason.

I always thought I would marry a man with a healthy bank balance but alas I met one in severe debt and not just no credit rating but a bad one.  Part of us moving overseas is so that his credit rating can be reset (though obviosuly it wasn’t the main reason).

Have you shared your concerns? and as @fresitachulita said: are you ok with the financial change?

I know I can’t help, but good luck.

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