Post # 17
To EK, please dont think you cant borrow any little thing you like from Judaism, if it has a nice meaning for you, then you should do it. But I have to correct an earlier entry, the lowering of the veil may have taken on a modern translation that the groom accepts her for her inner beauty but the truth is, this lowering is usually done BEFORE the wedding in a private room. It is called a bedekken, the original reason dates back to a groom being tricked into marrying his intended’s much older sister. Now he places the veil and makes sure it is the right girl!
Post # 18
What I find amusing is how much the symbolism of many of these traditions have changed over the years. What was primarily a practical matter has been romanticized or given a religious context. One can say that the veil is about virginity and purity, but looking back to the business arrangement aspect of weddings, and it becomes a handy tool for hiding unsightly merchandise or pulling a bait and switch, as JCM and ju1244 have noted.
Most modern wedding traditions, at least their current symbolisms, are relatively new. For example, the white dress. In western Europe, the traditional wedding dress was actually blue. Queen Victoria popularized the white dress that we know today.
What it all boils down to is that you can basically pick and choose whatever traditions you want to include, and you can assign your own symbolism to them. Make it your own! If that means having a hybrid wedding of cultural traditions around the world, with modern romantic interpretations of old customs, go for it. 🙂
Post # 19
I wasn’t going to do it but the bridal shop showed me how a cover one would look perfectly with the dress and the veil I had already chosen for the back of my head. It looked gorgeous so I decided to do it. And for me personally I adore the symbolism, even though I’m a hard-core feminist!!! Just, as some said, make sure it’s sheer enough so your face can be seen.
It really can look so very pretty, trust me……
Post # 20
@ju1244 is correct. This stems from the story of Rachel and Leah… Jacob worked in his Uncle’s fields for seven years to gain the hand of his cousin Rachel in marriage, because he had fallen madly in love with her. Upon lifting the veil at the ceremony, however, he found that he had been tricked, and that his bride was in fact Rachel’s older sister, Leah. His Uncle wanted to keep Jacob working in his fields for free, so he said that it would have been unseemly for the younger daughter to be married before the older one. He then made Jacob work another seven years to finally gain Rachel’s hand in marriage.
… and that is why the groom feels the need to check in Jewish weddings!
The other tradition surrounding blushers involves the time when marriages would be arranged, and it was considered unwise to reveal too much to the groom before the wedding in case he decided to do a runner… so it is bad luck for him to see the dress, for example. It was also considered a good idea to obscure the bride’s face for as long as possible in case he changed his mind… which is why the blusher would only have been removed by the groom right at the end of the ceremony, and not by the bride’s father at the start, as is now often the case in modern weddings.
Post # 21
I plan on wearing a blusher veil, and I always thought the groom lifted it before he kisses the bride as @Rachel631: said, I am not sure whether I will have my father or Fiance lift it. Probably my Fiance if I am wearing my mum’s veil, it is very see through and works beautifully in photos and video so you can still see the makeup and everything 🙂
Post # 21
Im still trying to decide if i want my dad to lift my veil after walking me down the isle or if my husband should right before kissing me. My wedding is next week!! Its outside so not sure whats best as i dont want to be wrapped up in it. But ive always wanted my veil back right before the kiss…..
Post # 22
my love wants to lift the veil for our first kiss as husband and wife… he even wanted to practice.. so cute