(Closed) Wanking while I was asleep

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Wanking while wife is asleep
    Totally fine : (164 votes)
    31 %
    Totally disrespectful : (83 votes)
    16 %
    You're being too sensitive : (271 votes)
    52 %
    You are being too generous : (3 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 138
    624 posts
    Busy bee

    @PinkMermaid:  wow nasty!! Merely stating my opinion!

    OP I am really glad everything is ok with you and your husband and that you think you have sorted your issues.

    Post # 139
    6117 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    would YOU be pissed off? (Please be honest with yourself) or would you be like ‘oh babe why didn’t you wake me up from my peaceful slumber instead?

    Just voting for myself here since the issue has been dealt with – I would not be upset.  I have had to take care of myself, somtimes the next day if sex didn’t do it for me, so I can see that being just what your H did. I do realize our libidos are not in synch to the hour, so going solo is completely fine.

    However, I would be mad if I were woken up from a sound sleep with a protruding body part in my back though!  Very bad!

    Post # 140
    1789 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Blackie:  Oh I know. drives me crazy -_-

    Just like I always say, dont ask for help if youre not going to listen.


    Post # 141
    1789 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @KellyLouise:  So how did you resolve it, just curious?

    Did you suddenly change your mind?

    Post # 142
    982 posts
    Busy bee

    @KellyLouise:  I think you’re totally overreacting. He is allowed to please himself in his own home, to expect otherwise is crazy. Masturbation and sex are two completely different things. If my SO told me that I couldn’t please myself in the home we share together, I’d tell him to get stuffed! I don’t make it obvious. He doesn’t make it obvious. It’s obviously something we both do in private. I’d certainly not interrogate my SO if he got up in the middle of the night – he’s allowed to, he’s not chained to me. I might sleepily ask if he’s okay, but that’s it. 

    Just because someone fibs about masturbation, it doesn’t mean they are a huge liar about your whole future together. It’s a private gift you give to yourself. 

    So to go and sleep in the spare room will not help your cause. It just puts distance between you, and makes him feel dirty for something that is completely normal. He’s not living in a church, and shouldn’t be made to feel like he is.

    Post # 143
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    @KellyLouise:  Time for you to grow up.  I think you’re creating distance that will only make matters worse in your relationship.  Maybe why that is why he can’t cum with you now too.  I find that odd.  

    Post # 144
    2868 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Deejayelle:  Yeah, I put this on a par with lying about your exact weight if your spouse asks. They shouldn’t be asking in the first place, they don’t need to know everything.

    Post # 145
    32 posts

    I don’t think I would care to be honest. I would feel like a bitch if I ‘told him off’ about it coz I have done the same myself.

    Sometimes it is just easier to DIY and you actually don’t want sex. The only reason he lyed was to protect you because he obviously knew you wouldn’t feel good about it…not an excuse to lie, buy hey. He is a man, they don’t often think things through and just told a fib because he didnt want to hurt your feelings.  I wouldn’t take it personally and you wouldn’t want to make it some ‘forbidden fruit’ or he will only want to do it more.

    As others have pointed out, it is no reflection on you at all. If it makes you feel better, my boyf does it in the shower! 

    Post # 146
    621 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @KellyLouise:  You claimed that after 20 minutes of arguing you ‘forgave’ your husband, but you didn’t. You wrote this post the day after your argument, a whole night after sleeping in the spare room and then an hour after the first few responses to this thread you claimed that he would be ‘wifeless’.

    Ugh. Just the whole thing.

    Post # 148
    12 posts

    subtlebee:  i told him he can once a month but when im not there and he agreed

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