- 5 years ago
Going undercover here…… not a popular Bee but dont want my job to find this, even though it is a one in a billion chance!
Backstory. My Darling Husband and I have been married over a year and work together. He is from another country and not a US citizen. We work overseas, we are a department of two, I am in charge, and we are together 24/7. We get to travel the world, we make really really good money, and have no cost of living. BUT we are totally isolated from friends and family, we have are constantly together, it is a stressful job, etc.
Lately, I have begun to hate it. I think i am a little depressed, our relationship is hurting a little (more fighting, more nagging on my part, less intimacy). I used to have eating disorder issues and while not full blown again they seem to be creeping up (probably beause I feel I have no control with anything else). We also eat really unhealthy, drink too much and never sleep. My Darling Husband knows I wants to quit and about the issues but feels we need to stick it out for another year.
I know you Bees can not make major decisions for me… but I have never felt so stuck! Thought some advice might help me make a decision……Here are my choices…….
#1 Stay with the job I have for 6 months to a year. Suck it up. Walk away with over 6 figures and start trying to have a baby ( we want a few and I am 33 so we know there is a time limit here)
#2 Quit and move to the states now. A few things… Darling Husband can not work in the states for at least 6 months to a year so there goes our savings. We do not have a car, a house, insurance, furnishings, and I have very specific skills so I do not think it will be easy to find a job.
#3 Move to Darling Husband country of origin. He owns a home, a car, would take over his moms business, family could watch kids, we could have babies now!… sounds nice right? Well what if I feel stuck in this country. It is more dangerous than the states and any money we make there would not “transfer”. We would loose out if/when we moved to the states….. (south africa)
Maybe this is the stupidist post ever and makes no sense. I am just SO UNHAPPY and didnt think my fairytale marriage would make me so isolated and unhealthy.