Post # 1
My fiance and I really want our reception to be a kid free event. We don’t want to deal with rude, fussy kids and they run rampant in my family. Our venue is in a local park and is a alcohol free zone so it will be dy as well.
While it is a beautiful venue and is very modern and classy, people are saying it’s odd to have a park/buffet dinner child free. My parents are paying the bill and my dad would like to include kids to avoid pissng people off and to keep it a family event. He said it’s our party and we can do what we want, but I still am starting to feel guilty for wanting it to be kid free. Would it be really odd to have a casual reception in a family park be kid free? (the dinner starts at 7:00pm)
Post # 2
There’s nothing wrong with either a “no kids” wedding or a park wedding, but I can see how some people would wonder why you’d be unable to accommodate little ones in such a setting. We had a park wedding and several kids present, and the kids were able to go run around a bit if they got bored or tired, which was nice.
Post # 3
Unless you are able to rent the entire park for the afternoon/evening there may be running screaming children elsewhere in the park. I once went to a wedding where the venue was a private garden, but there ended up being children playing basketball, laughing and screaming on the next property over. the wedding coordinator asked them to stop for the ceremony, so they came and watched over the fence still using their outside voices.
Nothing wrong with wanting child free, just don’t be upset if you can’t enforce it in a public space.
Post # 4
I don’t know what your family/friends are like, but where I live the words casual & park would automatically have parents bringing their kids regardless. “Oh they won’t be on the way, it’s a park! They can play at the playground while we do grown up stuff.”
Post # 5
Could you place an age limit?
I feel that kids at age 10 and up aren’t too obnoxious. Know how to entertain themselves and tend to have a good grasp on manners.
Post # 6
Unless your venue is completely walled off from the rest of the park, you might as well invite the children. Maybe hire a couple of professional babysitters to monitor the children at the playground.
Post # 7
craigslistgirl : Yes I see where you’re coming from. I should have added, the park will be closed. The venue is just being rented out after hours and it’s some ways from the actual kids areas. So while they could run around, it would be in the dark haha. The playground area would be closed.
fluffhead : We thought about that but the two kids we are trying to prevent from coming are 10 and 12 so they are just at the cutoff :/ Then another one who is 9 and is well behaved would be cut off. It’s a lose lose situation.
morgansmom : I should have added that, the building is completely walled in and away from the play area (theres jsut one small one) and hiing trails. It is a newly built buiding with a huge verandra and porch overlooking the woods. So it’s a bit away from where the kids could run and play. It will also be after house and dark so they wouldn’t be able to do much anyways.
Post # 8
I say have the wedding you want. It’s not everybody elses wedding!
Post # 9
Most people are going to think of a park as a “kid place”’whether they bring uninvited guests or not. You can have a kid free event and not everything is for kids. But it sounds more like you are trying to prevent people from thinking I’ll of you, and that you can not do.
Post # 10
I would just personally speak with the parents concerned and explain that to make it fair for everyone and enable all of the adults to have a good time you have decided no kids will be present. If you frame it in such a way that you want THEM to be able to relax and have a good time celebrating with you that might be better. But also mention you understand if this prohibits them from coming (sometimes people can’t find alternative arrangements)
Post # 11
I think you risk pissing off a lot of people because, while many people (begrudgingly) understand excluding kids when you’re striving for a certain level of formality, there’s really no justification for it when it’s a more casual affair. It becomes obvious that the reason you’re excluding the kids is because you don’t like them, and nobody likes learning that you don’t like their kids. It’s probably better to do as pp suggested and hire some babysitters who can keep the kids entertained and prevent disruptive behavior.
Post # 12
Is all the negativity from your family and guilt from your dad who is paying worth it to you? I agree, if it was adults only I’d be expecting a fancier affair at a place/environment where it’d be inappropriate to have kids aka not a park! I think kids are fun at weddings, on the dance floor etc so I don’t get it, but if you feel that strongly about it… idk.
I would listen to your gut. If it was me I’d go with the easier path- respecting your dads opinion who’s paying and not having to have all these stressful interactions explaining no kids even if I’d prefer adults only.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
If you want a childfree wedding, have a childfree wedding. It doesn’t matter why you want it, and if your guests have a ounce of manners, they won’t bring their children to an adult only event. You don’t need a “reason”. You set the parameters of your wedding, and people can decide if they do or don’t want to attend based on that information.
Post # 14
I tend to agree with MrsBuesleBee. Given that your father is paying and would like to invite the children, and given the more casual nature of a park wedding, I think it will create ill feelings all around to exclude children.
Post # 15
pebbletots01 : I see zero conflict with a casual park setting and an adult only event. I see others have brought up your dad contributing to the wedding cost – that is where a conflict might be. Not the venue.
In a perfect world I’d never attend another wedding with children present, venue doesn’t change that. I had an adult only wedding and that would have stood no matter my venue.