Want a child free reception but our venue is in a park and pretty casual

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

There’s nothing wrong with either a “no kids” wedding or a park wedding, but I can see how some people would wonder why you’d be unable to accommodate little ones in such a setting. We had a park wedding and several kids present, and the kids were able to go run around a bit if they got bored or tired, which was nice. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Unless you are able to rent the entire park for the afternoon/evening there may be running screaming children elsewhere in the park.  I once went to a wedding where the venue was a private garden, but there ended up being children playing basketball, laughing and screaming on the next property over.  the wedding coordinator asked them to stop for the ceremony, so they came and watched over the fence still using their outside voices. 

Nothing wrong with wanting child free, just don’t be upset if you can’t enforce it in a public space. 

   

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I don’t know what your family/friends are like, but where I live the words casual & park would automatically have parents bringing their kids regardless. “Oh they won’t be on the way, it’s a park! They can play at the playground while we do grown up stuff.”

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Could you place an age limit? 

I feel that kids at age 10 and up aren’t too obnoxious. Know how to entertain themselves and tend to have a good grasp on manners. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Unless your venue is completely walled off from the rest of the park, you might as well invite the children. Maybe hire a couple of professional babysitters to monitor the children at the playground.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I say have the wedding you want. It’s not everybody elses wedding!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Most people are going to think of a park as a “kid place”’whether they bring uninvited guests or not. You can have a kid free event and not everything is for kids. But it sounds more like you are trying to prevent people from thinking I’ll of you, and that you can not do. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee

I would just personally speak with the parents concerned and explain that to make it fair for everyone and enable all of the adults to have a good time you have decided no kids will be present. If you frame it in such a way that you want THEM to be able to relax and have a good time celebrating with you that might be better. But also mention you understand if this prohibits them from coming (sometimes people can’t find alternative arrangements)

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think you risk pissing off a lot of people because, while many people (begrudgingly) understand excluding kids when you’re striving for a certain level of formality, there’s really no justification for it when it’s a more casual affair. It becomes obvious that the reason you’re excluding the kids is because you don’t like them, and nobody likes learning that you don’t like their kids.  It’s probably better to do as pp suggested and hire some babysitters who can keep the kids entertained and prevent disruptive behavior.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Is all the negativity from your family and guilt from your dad who is paying worth it to you? I agree, if it was adults only I’d be expecting a fancier affair at a place/environment where it’d be inappropriate to have kids aka not a park! I think kids are fun at weddings, on the dance floor etc so I don’t get it, but if you feel that strongly about it… idk.

I would listen to your gut. If it was me I’d go with the easier path- respecting your dads opinion who’s paying and not having to have all these stressful interactions explaining no kids even if I’d prefer adults only.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

If you want a childfree wedding, have a childfree wedding. It doesn’t matter why you want it, and if your guests have a ounce of manners, they won’t bring their children to an adult only event. You don’t need a “reason”. You set the parameters of your wedding, and people can decide if they do or don’t want to attend based on that information.

 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I tend to agree with MrsBuesleBee. Given that your father is paying and would like to invite the children, and given the more casual nature of a park wedding, I think it will create ill feelings all around to exclude children.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

pebbletots01 :  I see zero conflict with a casual park setting and an adult only event.  I see others have brought up your dad contributing to the wedding cost – that is where a conflict might be.  Not the venue.  

In a perfect world I’d never attend another wedding with children present, venue doesn’t change that.  I had an adult only wedding and that would have stood no matter my venue. 

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