Want an IUD, but scared: advice? stories?

posted 1 year ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

I cant speak to the copper one, as I have mirena, but I love it. The insertion was NOT great. It was pretty bad actually. I only spotted for like a week after. Didnt have a period for like 4 years. It started to come back a bit (like 1 day period) but then went away again. I don’t think the experience is quite the same on the copper (heavier periods). But the peace of mind, not having to take a pill or use condoms is SO AMAZING. 

If you already have quite bad periods, I would take a look into the hormone ones. They are very low dose, concentrated area release. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Canadian Rockies

Following. I hate the pill and am considering a change.. I saw horror stories online as well about both types of IUD 🙁 Copper would be nice bc no hormones, but the amt of possible spotty bleeding can be too much for me (I tend to be heavy).

Many years on bc.. I switched from Tri-Sprintec to the shot (big mistake – spotting, weight gain, acne, increased appetite) to Jolessa (3 month). I feel angry a lot and have insane, sporadic bleeding. Many accidents. I’ll try to give it 3 months NO MISSED PILLS (I have bad luck with this) and if I still have massive bleeding in the middle of a pack (because I missed 1 or 2 pills!), I want to switch. This is ridiculous..

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I’ve had two jaydesses so can’t speak for copper. Inserting hurt like hell. I spotted for few weeks. Didn’t have period for the first 1,5 years but they started after that. Very regular and not too heavy, but then again I’ve never had heavy flow but without hormones I’ve always been irregular. It was great untill I made a positive pregnancy test. Dr said it’s perfectly in working order and it just happens sometimes…you know with the 99% effectiveness and all. I didn’t trust it anymore so removed it and went back to pill. I do think it’s a good form of birth control (it was for me for several years) but my experience just turned me off from it for a while. Might go back to it later but for now staying on the pill.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

bushandapeck :  I haven’t had one, but many of my friends who had it and had issues hadn’t had children yet. All the women I know that love their IUD are moms. Something about your cervix being dilated before? Not sure, but I actually had an old OBGYN that wouldn’t even give hormonal IUDs unless you’d given birth although that was about a decade ago. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have a mirena and I love it.  It does have hormones but they are localized and nothing like the hormones you get on bcp (since those go through your bloodstream).  If I remember correctly, the mirena has progestin (progesterone) only and not estrogen so it is actually more similar to the minipill than the combination pill as far as hormones go.  I had headaches from BCP but I do not get them with mirena. 

I choose a mirena though so I wouldn’t get a period (since most women either don’t get periods or just have spotting) and luckily I do not get periods, just a day or two of very light spotting.  I used to have incredibly heavy periods so I didn’t want to even try out the paraguard.  But if you know what to expect, you can try it and always have it removed.

My insertion didn’t hurt much more than a regular pap (I have 2 kids though) and I had a bit of cramping for a few weeks and spotted for about 6 weeks but nothing since outside of what I described above (maybe 2 days very light spotting every month, no cramps).

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I’ve got experience with paraguard. The inesrtion wasn’t too bad for me because my doctor actually gave me valium to do it.  They do have to dilate your cervix which was very painful, but because I was so doped up on valium it didn’t bother me too much.

Now this is the scary party – I bled for three months straight post insertion.  And I don’t mean a light drop here and there.  I was flowing like a geyser and it was so bad that I would wear a depends.  Tampons and pads laughed at the level of flow that was coming out.  Cramps were also terrible.  I remember one day laying on the floor in my office for thirty minutes because the pain got unbearable.  Not everyone has this experience, so my guess was that my utuerus was reacting to me coming off of the bcp that I had been on for years and years.  I’m not an MD so that’s just conjecture.

After the bleeding and cramping stopped, the IUD was very easy.  Never had any issues with heavy bleeding or cramping after that and we’re still child free. 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I loved mine.  Had it for 7.5 years.  Hormone free, hassle free, sex-life and mood effects free, as effective as sterilization, and you can TTC immediately after removal.  It’s the best.

Yes, insertion hurts like a bitch.  But it’s only like 20 seconds.  I took 4 ibuprofen beforehand and that helped a lot.  It did make my periods heavier and cramps worse for 6-8 months afterwards.  After that, everything normalized.  I’d only avoid it if you already have very very heavy bleeding and/or bad bad cramps.

I got mine out in January at age 35 and got pregnant 2 weeks later.  Pretty sweet not have to go through months and months of your cycle regulating itself when all you want to do is make a baby already!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

LilliV :  most people who I know with an IUD are NOT moms, and I wasn’t when I got mine.  My OBGYN recommended it for anyone without super heavy cramps / endometriosis issues, whether or not you’ve had kids.  She said the “only for women who have given birth” thing was pretty outdated.  Just another perspective 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I have the copper IUD, and I love it.  I had it inserted 3 years ago, and I’ve never had children.  The insertion was pretty unpleasant and I had bad cramping for about 4 hours afterwards, so insertion day was not fun.  From the next day though, it’s been great.  My periods are a couple of days longer than they used to be, but they’re not any heavier and I don’t get any cramping.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

bushandapeck :  I can’t speak on the copper one, but I loved having the Mirena and I would encourage you to consider it as the hormones are localized, unlike BCP. The insertion was painful, but quick, and then the remainder of the day I had some spotting and period-like cramps (a lot of times they will insert while you are already on your period, but I wasn’t). I had some very minor cramps and light spotting for a couple days after that and then nothing. No cramps, no periods, no problems for the rest of the time I had it. And since another PP mentioned it, I’ve never given birth. 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

KittyYogi :  Yea I figured that was an old view from the doctor’s perspective and it’s nice that it’s an option for everyone more readily now. I hated having to remember my pill for all those years! My midwife suggested one after I gave birth, but I was having significant milk supply issues and I didn’t want to risk being in the tiny percentage of women who saw their supply dip after getting an IUD. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Read the post that @somathemagical just posted, that one was only about a week ago on the same topic. I will repost my answers from that thread:

1) How bad was insertion? 

It wasn’t that bad for me, but I have had a child and have a super high pain tolerance. I have read boards on here (more often than not) where people without kids had extreme pain. 

2) Did you already have a child, or were you never pregnant before getting the IUD? 

I have a son.

3) How did it effect your menstrual cycle? 

Extremely. My periods became irregular, and SUPER heavy. Horrible cramps. I left it in for about 2 years and couldn’t wait to get it out. Before it, I had fairly light + regular periods and it totally jacked my cycle up. I am still going back to normal and I got it removed in November. 

4) How long have you/did you have it? 

About 2 years. 

5) For those of you who have fallen pregnant after, how long did it take? 
N/A, but I got it out in November and my periods were not regular up until the last month or so…so it would have been hard for me to track my cycles/intentially become pregnant.

6) General opinion/would you recommend it? 

Nope. For me it wasn’t worth it. The 3-7 days of my cycle every month were literally unbearable. It was hard for me to come to work. I would have to go to the bathroom every 45min-hour to change my tampon. I had to wear a pad also, because I even had times my tampons leaked after only 45 min of wear. Also my OB said she doesn’t recommend it (I switched OB’s between the time I got it and got it removed)

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have the Mirena and love it. Insertion wasn’t fun but not bad I felt fine after. My period is SO light now before I had super heavy like a combo of a tampon & pad some days and now I can get away with a liner for all but one day. It’s amazing.

As for hormones I was a mess on the pill but no side effects from this. So happy I got it.

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