Want an IUD, but scared: advice? stories?

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 16
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Busy bee

I love my IUD.  I’m on my second one.  I’ve used Skyla & Mirena, so I can’t speak to the heavy bleeding some people go through with the copper IUDs.  Insertion was definitely painful.  Take some ibuprofen ahead of time.  However, the most intense painful part really only last about a minute or two at the most.  I was surprised that I felt crampy for about 2 weeks.  Not terrible – just like mild period cramps.  I have had zero issues with my IUDs.  And for reference, I haven’t had any children.   

Post # 17
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Helper bee

I have the Skyla IUD and I could not love it more. It’s fairly low on hormones, keeps my period light and short, and I haven’t had any (noticeable) side effects. 

I was also terrible at remembering to take the pill and it also made me psycho, lol. 

Highly recommend IUDs, I’ve had mine about 2 years now and love it. The insertion was very uncomfortable but I felt better within a couple hours. Don’t let that part of it deter you from having years of birth control without having to do anything else. It’s so worth it!!

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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rez123 :  Did I just read that you got pregnant when you had Jaydess?? I have that now and that is slightly terrifying!

OP, I have had Jaydess (a smaller version of Mirena) and insertion was a breeze. Slight cramping, a tiny bit of spotting, within 30 mins I just felt like I had very mild period cramps that lasted for 2-3 days (Advil took that away). I only had one (very light) period with it and have very sporadic spotting now. I get mild cramps for a day or two and I’m tired and extra hungry… that is the extent of my PMS these days. It DID kill my sex drive and cause other ‘intimacy’ issues for me, but things may be turning themselves around now, we’ll see! I’m extremely sensitive to hormones which is why my doc switched me to the IUD because its a very small localized dosage. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My sister had an iud for 18 months before she decided to ttc again.  She had it removed in January,  but didn’t get her period until the end of May, so I’d probably be hesitant if trying to ttc in the next few years.  She did say it was pretty convenient.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee

I HATED paragaurd. All I did was bleed on it and eventually became anemic and had it taken out. 

My gyno has stopped recommending that one because of all of the complications that she has seen. 

I liked the idea of it being non hormonal, but I had to many issues. In regards to the pain, I took a ibuprofen a half hour before my appointment and was fine. The initial insert sucked and it feels like someone is pulling on your uterus (which they are) but it was over quickly. I had heavy cramping the rest of the night but my the next morning they were only light cramps and had completely disappeared by the end of the day. It was not the end of the world and I would get another IUD, but I would do a hormonal one like mirena, which I have heard nothing but good things about. 

 

Edited to add that I was on it for 1.5 years (probably a little less). I wanted to get it taken out immediately after I bleed for a whole two months straight but my Doctor told me it takes a bout a year to normalize, so I waited I out. Then at the end of the year it seemed like it was regulating and then I bleed again for two two months and went back in. Had a blood test and found I was slightly anemic and my doctor removed it that day. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

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Charliejeorge :  Yep. Had unusually long period and went to see the gyno to check that Jaydess is in place. It was but she did pregnancy test just in case. It was positive but it with further examination it was either miscarriage or chemical pregnancy. Two different doctors checked and said the IUD was in place and I could keep it (didn’t really want to). As this was happening, I looked into it and it’s not exactly a unique story regardless of the brand. Not gonna lie, it was scary as hell but i don’t think you should worry 😀

 

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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rez123 :  Ohhhh, yes I do remember being warned about possibility of chemical or tubal pregnancy. I forgot about that haha. Obviously it hasn’t been weighing too heavily on my mind! I can see why the experience would turn you off it though!

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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bushandapeck :  had the mirena for 6 years. now have a kyleena. so i won’t speak to the day-to-day since my experience would be different, but i can tell you about insertion and removal.

it’s not that bad. really.

insertion is…uncomfortable. but it’s not terrible, at all. the worst part is actually post-insertion. i hadd pretty bad cramping. that lasted most of a day (definitley plan on going home after and not back to work). but after that, it was all fine. removal was even less painful than insertion! and they had to fish around for mine for a bit as the strings had gotten snipped (long story).

you’ll be fine. it’s the anticipation that’s much worse than anything else.

also, to add: when i’ve never been pregnant before, so my uterus was not “used to” being occupied (apparently that can make a difference, supposedly. my doc said that was BS tho).

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Okay, so mine is…sort of a horror story, but I’m sharing it anyway because I feel it was worth it.

 

I’d tried a bunch of hormonal birth control and had horrible side effects. I was desperate for something nonhormonal that’d do the job, and heard about ParaGard, so I talked to my doctor and got a gyn appointment.

It hurt…pretty badly, when they tried to put it in. But it was only a few seconds of pain for years of assurance, so I figured it was fine. Only…since I’d never had a baby before, they couldn’t actually get it in at all. So they let me go, and signed me up for another appointment after putting in a suppository the next week that was supposed to dilate my cervix.

The rough part was when I was signing out, I started to feel really hot and nauseated and dizzy. By the time I got to the lobby I was sure I was either going to throw up or pass out, so I started walking faster to try to get outside so I could at least vomit on the grass. I ended up fainting in the lobby before I made it.

They brought me back upstairs and told me it was a vasovagal reaction. I had to lie there with an ice pack for an hour before I could leave. I did still come back the next week to have attempt two–and this time they did get the IUD in. They kept me lying down for thirty minutes with ice, just in case, but it was fine.

The second part of the horror story was that this IUD was misplaced. A few months later it got lodged in my uterine wall, and I had agonizing pain and had to go to the ER. They thought it was a torqued ovary. Luckily it was just the IUD–so they took it out and replaced it. Again: it hurt, but it was worth it.

And after ALL THAT HORROR…would I do it again? Absolutely. Just look at my story: I had that sucker put in me three times(!). I will comment that my periods now last 7-9 days instead of just 5, but honestly. It’s. Still. Worth. It. 

Post # 25
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Newbee

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bushandapeck :  I wouldnt get an IUD. I’m one of the horror stories. My best friend had the mirena and her periods pretty much stopped. She would spot here and there throughout the year. She stopped using it though and I think she has the birth control you stick in your arm now. I got an IUD as well the paragard and it was great until it wasnt. Insertion was uncomfortable. My periods were the same, a little heavier and clotty, but I got pregnant on the IUD. I thought it was a fluke and probably wasnt inserted right so after the baby I got another one, bad idea. Because you have strings from the IUD hanging out of your cervix, it doesnt close all the way ever, so I had a yeast infection and some of the yeast got in to my cervix/uterux because the cervix wasnt shut and it infected my whole reproductive system where I almost died. I couldnt walk straight and was curled in to a fetal position, and I was taken to emergency and admitted to the hospital where I was put on IV antibiotics, all because I had a yeast infection while I had an IUD. Ive hear sooooo many stories from other women too that I personally know and its like a hit or miss if it causes people issues or not. My best friend it worked for her, IUD did not work for me. I wouldnt recommend it though. I dont feel like its safe. Maybe try the one in your arm and dont have anything put in your uterus because I’m finding it difficult to get pregnant now. Good luck 🙂

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I have mirena for two years now.  The insertion was fine and dr warned me that id have some cramping it wasnt bad it lasted a day.  Other than that I havent had any issues, in fact my period is much lighter. 

Post # 27
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Worker bee

I’ve had my Paragard for 6 years now! Insertion was uncomfortable but tolerable. I’m told the best time to go is around your period when your cervix is lower and slightly dilated. I just took an ibuprofen 30 minutes before and I was able to get up and drive myself home immediately following insertion. I had light cramping the following day but nothing worse than regular period cramps. I was worried about this weird dark discharge later that day but I was told that was the stuff they put on my cervix. My periods were on the heavier side for about 6 months but they seemed to mostly go back to normal. They have gotten about a day longer than they were previously. I currently go back and forth from a heavy to a light period every other month. But I’m not sure if that’s because if Paragard or just my body doing its thing. 

And for what it’s worth, I have no children and had it inserted when I was 20. I love the Paragard and I recommend it to everyone!

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I did my first copper IUD when I was 17. Leading up to it includes a history of agonizing and debilitating menstrual cramps, heavy bleeding and 8 day long periods. Had never been pregnant, and they told me to take 1 gram of tylenol an hour before coming in. 

Insertion was not memorable,  uncomfortable but nowhere near as bad as my cramps. Initially nothing seemed that much worse, slightly heavier bleeding for 5-6 months and so time went on my periods dropped to 5 days in length. Cramps went down a bit with time as well. 

Fast forward, I had it in for 13 years and decided to have it removed and replaced.  Removal was no biggie. Insertion was again uncomfortable but not what *I* would consider painful. My PA was amused by my commentary during the process. 

There was some light cramping and bleeding for the first few days afterwards and it seemed everything was fine until a few weeks later where I would get horrendous, literally drop me to my knees/@$$, nearly pass out from pain on and off. A few times I figured “must be settling”, but it started happening more frequently, I went in for an ultrasound and was told everything looks perfect, but I developed a 103* fever that lasted several days. They put me on antibiotics thinking there might be an infection but ultimately I had it removed at an emergency clinic and there was INSTANT relief from the pain, and that pain has not come back. 

Decided to give myself a break and we have only been using condoms the last 6 months. Turns out without my IUD, my periods are 3-4 days, very light, and cramps are virtually nonexistent,  which leads me to believe they stayed horrendous because of keeping it in, and at some point during my adult life my uterus stopped hating me but I never knew due to the IUD.

That all said, I am so thankful I did it and would do it again. I am so bummed my second one tried to kill me. My first one was accidentally placed lower than they wanted but worked fine for me, the second one in the “perfect” spot, just not the perfect spot for me. 😉 

Now that I know what my body feels like without it, I am not going back. That said, I loved it, no pregnancy scares ever, and I do recommend them in general. 

Good luck bee!

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I got the copper Paragard when I was 19, had never been pregnant or had children prior. It was my first form of birth control besides using condoms, since I was super against any kind of hormonal birth control. The insertion was a little painful but nothing too bad (it was also 10 years ago so my memory isn’t that clear anymore!) I think I felt crampy for 1/2 to 1 day afterward. It didn’t impact my cycle but did make my periods heavier — from very light to probably ‘typical.’ They were heavier at the begining, though never unmanageable, and eventually normalized back after a few years. I’ve been such a fan of my Paragard, and it’s actually time for it to get removed – time flies I guess. Stay tuned on the removal process. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I had Paraguard and it worked well for me!  The insertion was not bad AT ALL which surprised me after reading so many horror stories on the internet.  I took ibuprofen or something (otc) beforehand, and my Dr gave me an anesthesia shot which I think helped (shot was not uncomfortable).  It did make my periods heavier.  After I had it taken out and the bleeding continued, my doctor realized that I had a uterine polyp-so it was likely that it was totally unrelated to the IUD.  I loved knowing that I didn’t have any unnatural hormones in my body.  Highly recommend it!

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