(Closed) Want my mom to be happy…but is this rude?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: What should my mom do?
    Keep quiet and accept whatever dress they design - it's a gift! : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Mention some colors and designs she prefers, but have them still make it in Korea. : (27 votes)
    84 %
    Ask if it would be possible to purchase them in the states instead. : (4 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I can see both sides of this. I would want input on how I looked too. Maybe you can say you’d like to pick the material so as that it goes with your color’s ??? Buy it here and let them make it. That way it’s 50/50 and equally giving on both sides.

    Post # 4
    Member
    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think your mom deserves some say in what she’ll wear at her daughter’s wedding, even if the outfit is a gift.  It doesn’t sound like she “needs” it to be gifted to her so I don’t think she’s obligated to accept it and wear it no questions asked just because it was offered.  It would be nice if she could give input into preferred colors/styles etc. even if she doesn’t see it before it’s bought.

    Post # 5
    Member
    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

     After thinking on it I would be upset at not being able to wear what I look best in either. Maybe she can just wear it at the rehearal dinner if your having one.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1037 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

    I wouldn’t think it rude for your mother express interest in helping her pick out colors/patterns if possible! I think that if I were your Future Mother-In-Law, I would at least like to know what colors your mother felt comfortable in/was looking to find. If pictures of the potential fabrics were available, would your mother feel more comfortable with having them made outside of the states?

    Post # 7
    Member
    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I don’t think it’s rude for your mother to want input into what she is wearing at her daughters wedding. I think it’s wonderful that Future Mother-In-Law wants to give such a generous gift but she should ask your mom what colors etc your mom likes. Can you have your mom look at pictures online for colors and go to a fabric store to see what she likes then casually pass along to your Future Mother-In-Law the info? Maybe “Oh my mom and I were looking at pictures at she really likes X color and loved X fabric.” I don’t think it’s rude at all to want to be comfortable at your daughters wedding.

    Post # 8
    Member
    7053 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Maybe she could wear the hanbok she picked out at the wedding and another hanbok (the gifted one) at the reception?

    She could be like a cool two dress bride!  Moms can go glam too! 

    Post # 9
    Member
    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I think it’s okay for your mom to want to know what she’ll be wearing and to have some input. Although they’re a gift, I’m sure she wants to feel her best on your wedding day. If it’s typical that the women go shopping for them here, maybe you guys could suggest that. Could your mom just ger her on hanbok, or would that be considered rude?

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