- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
Let me preface this by saying that my sister and I don’t have the best relationship. We used to be really good friends until recently, when she has spiraled out of control and I don’t know who she is anymore. She’s always been dramatic, expects to be the center of attention, has tantrums, etc. About 13 months ago, she lost her job and her boyfriend broke up with her, and she’s gotten 1000 times worse. I was supportive and felt bad at first, but it’s apparent that she is not doing anything to change her situation, just complaining. She is barely applying for jobs and refuses to take anything less than what I think is an unreasonably high salary. Even when she was making good money, she always lived beyond her means and was never satisfied with what she had.
Okay, long story short, things have been severely strained since I got engaged. I never, ever wanted to be that person who’s like “she’s just jealous.” I think that’s conceited and presumptuous. But what else can it be? She accuses me of thinking I’m better than her and rubbing my engagement in her face. I never even talk about it to her! Also I bought a house in September, and I knew, KNEW, just the mere fact of owning a home would cause her to accuse me of thinking I’m better than her. Sure enough, she said that to me the other day. It’s a small house, we’re renovating it, etc. I love my house, but I certainly don’t brag about it.
So things came to a head last Friday when my Mom asked her about a job interview, and she said she wouldn’t take it if it was offerred because it paid too little (ha, $4K MORE than I make.) So I said she should just take it, it has benefits, she’ll get out of the house, etc. She FLIPPED out and started screaming at me and my parents to leave her alone and mind our own business, and all we do is judge her. She called me a f-ing bitch and my parents a-holes and stormed out of the restaurant (yes, this was in public.)
SO, I would like to ask her not to be in my wedding. She’s a loose cannon at this point, and my best friend has been doing all the work anyway. I even have another friend I can ask to fill in. She has not paid me for the BM dress and told my Mom she plans to not (even though she has a new outfit every time I see her, and my Mom offered to pay half – it was $70 freaking dollars anyway), was a no-show for the cake tasting, and refused to send me pictures she had taken of me in my wedding dress and actually threatened to delete them until I begged and cried. I finally told her to delete them and another bridesmaid and I would go back to the salon and take more.
I’m not really looking for sympathy. My family and I think she has mental problems, but she refuses to address them (there’s a million more details other than this post, but I won’t bore you.) I just don’t want to deal with this anymore. Have any other Bees had to oust a sister or a bridesmaid? How did you handle it?