Aaaaand now I’m beginning to have second thoughts. The dentist from the shadowing reached out to me, asking ime what he could do to convince me to come back and spend another day in his office. (This is after I had already emailed him, explaining how I was declining the position and explained that I wanted to pursue veterinary medicine after being inspired by how fulfilled he was in his career). After telling him I accepted an offer at a veterinary hospital, he responded to let him know if it doesn’t work out.
The dental job was even closer (10 min walk), and paid $17/hr plus raises. The only thing, that I didn’t mention, was that he is horribly intimadating, and I left the shadowing experience in tears (I held it together until I was outside and walking home).
His way of training and teaching people consists of telling them things, and then rapid fire quizzing after. (similar to what I’ve heard “rounds” is like for a resident) Anytime I didn’t guess or answer correctly, he would snap “you are not listening! Now listen!” That was his style during the interview, but it was a lot more intense during shadowing. I nearly left in the middle of the shift several times, because it was very intense. When I expressed confusion, and told him “I am so sorry, I do not understand why this is so difficult for me to learn.” His response was to snap “I do not know either.”
Yes, part of it is I am a more sensitive then the average person, but I also do not think snapping at someone all day “you are not listening!” (especially when they are just doing a working interview, and not a staff member) is a typical work environment?
The staff was also walking on egg shells around him, and he reprimanded someone twice in front of a patient (one gal forgot to take off a “not met” sticker, meaning that he had not seen that person yet, and scolded them for embarassing him)
Near the end of it, he was telling me to pull up xrays and fill out charts, even though I had no clue what I was doing. I asked for guidance, and he told me to figure it out, or go grab someone else, he was busy. I filled it out wrong, and he got really angry.
Besides all that, I also do find dentistry a bit boring in general (because it is very mechanical)
Clearly though, the dentist liked me enough to want to get me to come back, and now I’m wondering if it would be a good idea to go back for another day?
If I were to spend a few days learning about dental stuff, then I would be able to answer the questions he spent the time drilling me on, and would therefore be less frustrating for him.
I am absolutely in love with the veterinary job, and everyone there is so nice and cheerful, but it will be a pay cut (going from my current $15/hr plus 20-40 in tips/day to 13.50 per hour). I will have dental, heath, and vision insurance, and discount at the pet store and veterinary clinic as well though.
I’m just starting to think taking the pay cut isn’t a good idea, and that it would be better to take the higher paying job, when we have debt that we are trying to pay off and trying to build a savings account.
(And yes, it was this experience that I imagine simulated medical student or resident training to some degree that made me think perhaps I want to pursue something besides being a medical doctor. Although, had I known to read up and learn beforehand, then it wouldn’t have been so bad)