(Closed) Want to bitch out my friend. Am I over-reacting?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Maybe she was trying to figure out a way to come to your wedding and finally just came to the realization that she couldn’t. I would just let it go. At least she let you know, so you could budget accordingly.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Well, at least you get a holiday from her now?  I would let it go.  

Pick your battles! Enjoy your wedding away 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

yeah i would let it go. consider it a blessing that you dont have to deal with her on your wedding day. negative energy… ugh.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Your friend is being completely irritating, but I wouldn’t say anything at this point.  It will come up in conversation someday and you can call her out then (and I would).  And if you are lucky, it will be in the context of her complaining about someone else doing the same thing and maybe she will get a clue!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just let it go you stated that she just bought a home with her husband and that you knew she wouldnt come. just use this as a lesson and move on and dont expect anything more or anything less from this person.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

It’s something that would irritate me, but I think you probably should not say anything.  Her offense as is, isn’t that great.  And you don’t want to stoop to her level and look like the bad guy.  (Then you’ll find yourself in an unfamiliar, uncomfortable place.  Especially since I’m guessing she’d have no problem being snarky about you behind your back, for calling her out.)

But the next time she does this to a friend,  you might want to nip her in the bud and tell her you don’t want to hear her complain about your other friends.  And that she could try to be more forgiving of others shortcoming because NONE of us are perefect.  And now you have an example to back it up 😉

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

Tough one… I’d say try and let it go. If you really can’t, maybe vent to a mutual friend who can commiserate (in a non-gossipy way) to get it off your chest. Give her the benefit of the doubt – they may have been trying to find a way to swing it, or hoping that it wouldn’t have to be a no.

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