(Closed) Want to cancel and elope…need advice

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

One of my friends had similar issues… just all kinds of issues with the family and with finances.  She ended up inviting the family to the courthouse with her and then having a little dinner with them, and then she invited her friends separately for a BBQ.  Some of us were bummed we didn’t get to watch the wedding itself, but we all understood, and the family was fine with this arrangement too.  You could arrange for a little dinner or something for the family, and then do something separate for yourself and some close friends.  If you met at a restaurant or had people over, it wouldn’t have to be real expensive either.  Or yeah, just elope and have it be between you and your fiance!  This should be a happy time, and it sounds like going through with the whole wedding is not going to be fun for you.  You definitely deserve to be happy on your wedding day, so do whatever you need to to make that happen.

Post # 5
Member
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’re elopeing too!!

We’ve invited his mom and brother and my mom and sister.

We plan on having a big bash in my hometown after we get hitched.

My family was starting to plan this HUGE big wedding with all this crap I don’t care about and blah and blah and …………

I threw my hands up and said OUR WEDDING, OUR DAY! It’s ok. Surpriseingly there have been no hurt feelings. Just let people know as soon as possible.

It’ll be okay!

Post # 6
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182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

What if you plan a “mini destination” wedding? Maybe just invite your dad, a very close friend or family member and your FI could have his daughter and maybe a best man? That way, at least those that are closest to you will be there and you still won’t have to pay out too much money for additional guests? Whatever you decide, just follow your heart and do what you feel is best! I’d discuss with the FI first before making any concrete decisions, just so you guys are on the same page. Best of luck to you!

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