Post # 1
The dress I originally wanted is being discontinued by the deigner. I have until November 30th to purchase it before it’s gone.
I LOVE everything about this dress. The lace and tulle combination is just stunning. And it has just enough of a train. Everyone who sees it has said “That’s so you!!’
But I don’t think I can pull off a strapless dress.
I am 5′ 11″ and I have wider shoulders with a very full chest.
I love the neckline of this dress (below) but I despise taffeta.
I’m not crazy about the idea of having someone re-create these 2 dresses, and I certainly can’t afford for the designer to custome make it.
Anyone have thoughts on this?
Post # 3
Honestly, I think sleeves make wide shoulders look broader! My shoulders aren’t too large, but anything with thick sleeves made me look like a line backer.
Have you tried on any strapless dresses?
Post # 4
Not with the same fuller skirt. Only the Trumpet style which didn’t look good all-around.
Unfortunately, there is only 1 shop within 100 miles that actually carries the dress and they only have it in a sample size (4). I am a size 14/16, so that’s not happening.
I just want to make sure that the focus is on the beautiful detail in the dress and not my shoulders/arms.
Post # 5
@ApandaManda: I love that first dress too but no shop near me had it to try on. 🙁 I believe no one will be focused on you arms. Just the beautiful bride you are.
Have you though of adding a halter to it for support.
Post # 6
i would just get the first. once it comes in you can decide if you want sleeves or a bolero or something like that, but imo i think you’ll prefer it strapless.
Post # 7
I think you should find a couple dresses with the shapes you’re thinking about to try on. I’m also busty, with wideish shoulders and anything with straps was a disaster. Total linebacker. And the structure in a wedding gown, once fitted, should make strapless no problem for you.
ETA: Dress 1 is gorgeous!
Post # 8
i say go for it, and if you don’t like the look of your shoulders when it comes in, look into getting a lace bolero or have your seamstress add some sleeves. really though, my experience has been that the PPer is right, sleeves like that will only draw more attention to your shoulders.
Post # 9
I’m about a street 12/14, (but I’m only 5’6″) and here’s a pic of me in a dress with thick sleeves as opposed to one in a strapless dress:
Sorry for the pics, no matter how many times I try to resize them they come out HUGE. But hopefully you can see what I mean. I think adding a bolero would be better than having it altered to have sleeves, plus the fuller skirt will balance your shoulders in the sleeveless dress.
(edited to put a pic that showed my shoulders better in the sleeveless dress.)
Post # 10
I agree with @DeadUtopia: the wide lace sleeves will only make s broad shoulders look even broader
Post # 11
i agree with a pp… usually wide shoulder straps draw attention to your wide shoulders, and therefore make them look wider… i’d definitely go with the strapless one, and if you are still nervous about it when it comes in, then go with a bolero (they make “sleeveless” boleros that mimic the look of the other dress, if that’s what you want)… but the first dress is oh-so-much more gorgeous than the other one, in my opinion!
Post # 12
Seconding the thoughts already mentioned by other posters…I’m a street size 8 and felt that lace dresses with broad straps made my arms look fat and my shoulders kinda hefty. Not an insecurity I’ve run into before! I think the bolero idea is great. And if you’re concerned about the lace of the bolero not matching you could do a colored bolero instead. There’s several pictures around here somewhere of a bride wearing an Enzoani dress (I think it was the Dakota) with a beautiful red satin bolero. She looked great!
Post # 13
@vermontia: yep, the beautiful Bakerella rocked it!
Post # 14
WOW to dress 1? Who is the designer?
Post # 15
@dashwoodgirl:It’s by Mori Lee- Style #2415
I love it!!
And thanks to everyone who posted, I decided just to go with the dress that I love (#1) and see how it goes. It is too pretty for me to pass up! 🙂