(Closed) Want to drop this bridesmaid.

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I had to unbridesmaid a girl a while ago. She turned out to not be the girl  I thought she was after a trip to vegas. Everyone told me I can’t do it, that when you ask someone, thats it. You have to stick with it. I did it anyway. But my wedding wasn’t for another year.

If this girl has already bought her dress and stuff for your wedding, I think it is too late. You probably thought that things would get better, but it sounds like this girl doesn’t care at all. Would you replace her if she said she didn’t want to be part of your day?

 

Post # 5
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It sounds as if you say something, if you unbridesmaid-her she’ll just be at the wedding and angry (although I suppose she could decide not to come?)

w/PP… I think if she bought the dress, etc… it might just be simplest in the grand scheme of the day to take the higher road, take everything she says with a grain of salt, and ask another Bridesmaid or Best Man you trust to at least make sure she gets into pictures, etc.

Post # 7
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3 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Given that you are less than six weeks away from your wedding, i would not make any big changes like switching out your Bridesmaid or Best Man.  even though you don’t like her anymore, she can make you life horrible and cause a scene at your wedding because you can’t disinvite her from your wedding.  better to keep her happy and in check than to wonder what she is up to.  If she really didn’t like you or want to be part of your wedding party, she would have dropped out all ready.  I wouldn’t pick a fight with her now because it will just ruin your wedding day.  Just distance yourself from her after the wedding.

Post # 8
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168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do you think she would do anything to sabotage your wedding?

 

Its up to you if she will bring you down on your day. Everyone will notice that she is being the lesser person and will think you are gracious for being above it. 

 

BUT if you think she is going to cause a scene or might ruin your mood on YOUR day, its ok to be selfish!! From what you’ve said about her character, who knows how long her and your FI’s friend will even date? When you look back in 50 yrs at pics of your wedding, will it bother you if she is/isnt in them?

Just remember you will be surrounded with people you love on your wedding day. It is about you and your Fiance, not Wendy. 

Post # 8
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168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Whoops, double post!

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