Want to elope he wants a party

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

You’ll have to find some compromise, maybe just a small wedding or perhaps an elopment with a big celebration when you get back?

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Find a compromise. I wanted an intimate beach wedding with a handful of our nearest and dearest. He liked the idea of that but we live in a country where eeeeveryone from the village comes along to the wedding, and brings people with them, which would have been too expensive where I wanted it. So now we are still having a beach wedding, at a cheaper resort, where anyone can come – because that it what is expected of him. Not quite how I imagined it, but I guess at the end of the day it’s about who you’re marrying than where you are getting married!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Yes, I’d like to elope or have a very small wedding for less stress and to get it over with (and get on with the rest of our lives together).  He (and FMIL) want the traditional wedding.  It’s frustrating.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

I wanted to elope to Las Vegas and have that quick movie like wedding and start a month long honeymoon since I love to travel, and I thought Fiance would be on board since we’re not very traditional  but he totally rejected the idea, he wants to have his family and his friends with him and have a party. So I had to compromise and accept the idea of having a party (I hate parties), but he will have to compromise on having a small simple wedding, cause from what I have heard his heart is set on a big fancy wedding…. I haven’t started planning yet but I can see we’re gonna have a difficult time agreeing on things 🙁 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Is he going to be the one planning it?  compromise is key, but he shouldn’t expect you to plan it all.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Elope for the marriage ceremony and go on your Honeymoon, then come back and have a party.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

torijane92 :  I wanted an elopment – parents and siblings only. But Darling Husband wanted the big wedding. All through the wedding planning phase i felt like I was planning *his* dream wedding. And I was also very worried about the money. We paid for it ourselves, and even thoguh we had the money in the bank, it really depleated our savings. 

However — the thing I totally underestimated was the outpour of love and generosity. We had about 110 guests, and about 25% of them traveled internationally to be at our wedding. Both of our families from overseas came and they all met, and they all danced. It was really wonderful and amazing. Now that it’s over, I’m so glad I was talked in to having a big wedding. I think it was worth all the stress and all the planning. I think it was great! 

But I did not feel that way at the time. lol! I’m sure you and your Fiance can compromise and find something that makes you both happy. 

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