Post # 1
Bee’s I just got married this friday and I have to say even though we had an outdoor wedding which was a little more cold then should have been expected I loved everything about our wedding and felt our ceremony was so amazing and so US I couldn’t feel more blessed. I am however almost in tears over our dj, he was a friend of my mother in law and has dj’ed before but never a wedding, she offered to pay him a few hundred dollars if he would do my wedding which was great I have to say I had my reservations but we had all layed out every song for him to play and then some… all together even though our reception was from 7:30 – 11:30 we gave him about 6 hours of music just so he would have a choice in front of him we even gave him a timeline to stick to I.E. MOTHER SON DANCE AT 8:30, DANCING IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWED, CAKE CUTTING 9:30.. ECT.
Well considering I didn’t have my phone on me I couldn’t keep track of time nor should I have to be during my wedding, my bridesmaid came up to me at 9:30 asking when was he going to stop the dinner music and start with the dancing songs.. I WAS SHOCKED! How could so much time have passed with him not doing anything about it.. I ran right over to him and said start the mother son dance and had to keep going up to him afterwards to let him know to do the bouquet toss song, the cake song, play a spanish song next for my grooms family, play an american song next.. it was crazy not only did we miss a whole hour of music but at least 7 of the songs he played we have never even heard of and on top of that he never played a slow song or even 1 of our must play songs!! Everyone enjoyed themselves regardless but everyone agreed the dj fumbled big time! I almost want to cry because we layed EVERYTHING out for him.. all he had to do was press play and walk away while keeping an eye on the time for the major events, I had to take time from my wedding to constantly go up to him and tell him what to do next!
My fiancee and I were thinking of renting a little hall and inviting our friends and family to have a redo of the party and play the songs that should have been played at our wedding.. honestly an ipod can do a better job than the dj. I just feel so bad because only 2 or 3 portuguese and spanish songs were played which I know bummed my family out and non of our must have american songs were played! The reception was suppose to go 50% english music/ 25% portuguese music / 25% spanish and that just wasn’t done. We obviously don’t expect anything from our guests money or gift wise… we just want our music played the way it should have been. I know everyone had a good time but for ME it ruined my wedding. Would it be weird to have a party to ‘celebrate our marriage’ so soon or maybe do this for a one year anniversary? I just want to have our party the right way and actually enjoy ourselves!
Post # 4
I think it’s wonderful that you were having such a great time at your wedding that you didn’t even notice that time was flying by. That’s how I felt on my wedding day too. Not everything works out perfect on your wedding day, but I think it would be a bit indulgent to have another party so soon. After all, you got to do your cake cutting, first dance, etc.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
So what were you doing during the hour after dinner ended and the dancing didn’t begin? Did you have a mistress of ceremonies or ANYONE else that should have been paying attention to the flow of the evening for you? This seems very odd.
However, like PP said, shit happens and you don’t get a do-over, you only get married once. I think that is exactly the risk you take when you let a friend or anyone that’s not a TRUE professional be one of your wedding vendors.
Post # 6
He was a professional dj but not for weddings, he strictly only did spanish nightclubs he has never attempted to do a wedding but we made it very simple for him.. we gave him every single song to play all he had to do was download them which he said he did and just hit play that was it, aside from that we gave him a timeline so all he had to do was keep an eye on the time and let the songs play off of his computer.. how he messed this up is beyond me because my cousin’s dj was just an ipod from one of the groomsmen and THAT was better than this dj. I don’t want a redo of the wedding because that would be silly because I loved everything about it aside from the music. I just want a chance to get my family and friends to party they way they should have at my wedding.. everyone said it was a beautiful wedding but they throw in..” I wish there was more portuguese music played or I wish I had danced more” Everyone was eating around 930 because obviously plates come out at different times but every wedding I have been to the music starts once the head table is done eating.. not the entire venue because you would obviously be there all night. My bridesmaid noticed the time only because she was like ‘wow we’ve been sitting here for a while’ To have to go up to the dj every few minutes to direct him was just crazy to me. I don’t want to re-do my entire wedding but I do wish I could have a chance to get my family and friends back together to party the right way and have fun. I wouldn’t expect gifts or money I just want everyone together to have fun the right way my husband and I just don’t know if we should wait until an anniversary to do this.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
If you really want to spend your money to throw another party complete with payin g for another DJ, food, drinks, chairs, and tables, that’s certainly your perogative. But I imagine that you may have other financial priorities to focus on now, and throwing another party just because you didn’t get enough dancing time at your original party may not be the wisest use of your funds and mental energies. Just a thought.
Post # 8
Sorry that you were dissapointed.I don’t think it is worth fretting over.Congratulations on your marriage!
Post # 9
I recently wrote a post on a similar topic (here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-do-i-get-over-all-the-things-that-went-wrong). I really think you should give yourself some time to get some distance and perspective before you make any decisions about throwing another party. I promise, the DJ’s screw-ups may still annoy you, but you’ll feel a lot better overall.
I know you’re hurting and you hope the “make-up” party will make you feel better, but it’s an expensive proposition just to make sure your playlist is right this time. Plus, your wedding day is your wedding day, flaws and all. Your party won’t feel as special to you as your reception did and could just lead to more disappointment.
Post # 10
Don’t beat yourself up about it! I’m sure everything else was amazing, and even if your guests noticed something off they won’t remember it in a month — what they will remember is how happy you were and how amazing you looked, and that they had a good time.
Post # 11
First of all, I’m sure you meant to say husband instead of fiance 🙂
Second, I am sorry that you were disappointed in your DJ. It happens, and is unfortunate. But you had a great time at your wedding, and I’m sure your guests did too, so I think its time to move on for a while. If you want to celebrate again, I think you should wait at least a year. If I were a guest at a friends’ wedding and they threw another one (well, wedding celebration anyway) so soon, I would find it kind of attention seeking and odd, and likely wouldn’t go.
Post # 12
First – Congratulations on getting married!!! It sounds like you had such a wonderful time visiting with friends and family that you didn’t even notice how time was flying by. I’m sorry that your DJ didn’t work out so well. But it sounds like you still got in all the important parts of the reception. Just didn’t get some of the music you wanted. Which sucks, but I don’t think it’s the end of the world. I’m sure everyone still had a wonderful time. There are always parties to throw in the future (brithdays, anniversaries, new years, just for fun, etc.). But your wedding is now done. I wouldn’t recommend trying to re-do the reception. As a guest I would think it was odd. And it would be expensive. And I’m afraid to think it might detract from the original wedding, which was so much more important than the dancing music!
Post # 13
It’s not worth it unless you want to do it in a year for an anniversary party.
Post # 14
I would say skip the “re do”.
You married the man you love. Your family and friends were there to celebrate with you. The End. Those are the most important things in my opinion.
Post # 15
Sorry your sad, re-doing won’t fix anything….not to mention if I got invited to a wedding celebration when the wedding just happened, I would be puzzled to say the least.