Post # 1
I turn 30 this year and feel it’s a good time to start trying to get pregnant. 2 years ago I got pregnant (not planned) and lost the baby only 3 weeks into the pregnancy. I know miscarriages are very common but it’s been playing at the back of my mind that I might struggle – there have been a handful of times over the last 2 years where I could potentially have been pregnant, but never have.
So, for those ttc, could you give me any advice as to how best to start trying? I saw a documentary that said you only have something bizarre like a 12 hour window each month in which to conceive…how do you time these things best? Also, is there anything other than folic acid I should be taking?
Thanks to anyone who can help 🙂
Post # 3
I fought against this when I started ttc because I worried about it becoming too demanding, but I wish that I’d started charting right away. If you aren’t familiar with your cycles and especially if you don’t know if you ovulate, then charting and probably using opks (they don’t work for me but most people seem to swear by them) will help you to know when and if you are ovulating. After a few months you can see from your charts if you are regular or not (although you might already know this).
The 12 hour thing is actually right, but the other thing to consider is that sperm will live in you for 3-7 days (depending on what you are reading), so there is a bit more leeway. If you go to a site like http://www.fertilityfriend.com, you can get a good idea of how to chart and they answer a ton of questions about how and when and all.
As for what to take, I’m not sure what to tell you on that. I can tell you that I started taking things like fish oil, b12, d3, CoQ10, and prenatals (which are an all around supplement that have other things in addition to a healthy dose of folic acid). Most of these are things that I was highly recommended to be on by my endocrinologist, but from what I’ve read it seems that a fair number of ladies are also taking much of the same.
Post # 4
Start reading up on charting and possibly get a kit at your local pharmacy. Start taking prenatal vitamins now! They have the folic acid in them.
Good luck! Blowing baby dust your way!!!
Post # 5
@dodgercpkl: Thank you for such a considered reply, that’s really kind. I didn’t even know about ovulation kits so i’ll get some asap. I don’t know what opks is but I’m gonna google it 🙂
@jolie0119: thank you…I feel nervous even thinking about trying 🙂
Post # 6
My best advise would be to not stress over TTC. If you have a smart phone, download a fertility app so you can track your periods and ovulation dates, but don’t obsess over having sex on specific days.
If you are stressed and not having fun, it most likely will take longer for you to get pregnant.
Post # 7
@ticatica: If you’re interested in learning more about your cycles and the female reproductive system in general, I HIGHLY recommend purchasing (or going to your local library for) Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I am unable to chart/temp due to a crazy sleep schedule, but I feel like reading the book gave me a better idea of what the whole pregnancy/TTC process involves. And definitely start taking a pre-natal for the folic acid, as well as all the other great vitamins it contains.
On a different note, don’t be TOO concerned about your previous MC. I had one earlier this year and my doctor told me that your chances for a second MC are no higher than the average woman. Only after multiple MCs does your risk factor go up.
Come join us on the July POAS boards if you’d like- we all are crazily impatient each month and seem to get each other through the LOOOOOONNNNNNGGGG month by chit-chatting about TTC stuff and regular life topics as well!:)
Post # 8
@MRSLMA: I will….I didn’t know there was aJuly POAS board! Thank you for all your advice 🙂
Post # 9
Not TTC yet, but I’m charting to avoid, so I’ve been keeping up with all the ins and outs of TTC that I can. I think PPs all have great advice. Charting is really helpful (as is the Taking Charge of Your Fertility book, I *love* it), and so is taking prenatals just in case (you want to build up those important vitamins prior to being pregnant as well as in the early stages of pregnancy). Also, the window is small, but it’s more like a few days once you factor in sperm being able to survive for days. I’m sure the July POAS board will help you out with tons of info, but I just wanted to chime in that PPs are right from what I know, and to wish you good luck!
Post # 11
@ticatica: Ok, I know this is a kinda silly answer, but have lots of sex! lol I don’t mean to say it in a DUH sort of way…
When my husband and I started to try, we just really “enjoyed” each other as often as we could. We focused more on each other and we ended up having A LOT more sex. lol I know this isn’t a fix all or anything, but it worked for us and it was nice that we had fun in the process.
Good luck! Sending you lots of luck!!
Post # 12
I’m turning 30 this year too and am also in England!
Good luck! I agree with the advice of other posters. Try to keep the fun there, and have more sex around your fertile time.